Feel insecure about myself because of my husband’s porn addiction.
My husband’s porn addiction made me very insecure and self conscious about myself. I caught him and he stopped completely. He says he’s very sorry and he was addicted to it. When his history randomly popped up while I was using his phone once and I questioned him about it. He asked me to forgive him and he will never lie to me again and let me know if he is horny. He said it was going on for a year and after I finally caught him he stopped. If someone is addicted wouldn’t you think they’ll do it again?
Now I keep thinking about the stuff he watched and the pretty women he got turned on from online. Makes me look at myself and question my looks. I feel betrayed. I’m trying to continue but I keep thinking about the girls he looked at and they were all in one category of milfs brown hair and blonde hair. I have black hair and tan. No boobs no butt. He says he loves my body but why wouldn’t he just come to me when he was horny instead of looking at other women at work and in the bathroom at home while I’m taking care of our daughter? He said he completely stopped but why do I feel so ugly? Not like he cheated on me in real life. I just don’t know how to go on. Please don’t tell me it’s healthy for men to watch porn..etc he was watching it excessively. I just feel so insecure and don’t know how to go on now..
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Totally normal you’re not crazy. He broke your trust and it will take time for it to come back. Transparency and communication is going to help with this the most
Addiction is not about you, it’s a spiritual mental emotional sickness…there is a void that he is trying to fill and he gets a release each time but needs more and more…nothing can ever fill that void, not even you as his wife…that’s not your place…he needs to reach for the highest power there is and the love, divine love, Jesus/God…he also needs therapy, sex addiction/porn group especially if he is not a believer…they accept everyone agnostic and atheist…but the principles of the program work…this is a time for healing, forgiveness and prayer if you would like to pray…you can also go to marriage counseling as well…a marriage is a very special thing and don’t let your husbands shortcomings make you feel less than because it’s not about you at all…it sounds like he really wants the help…you can try and empathize with him and if you feel he is really serious about getting the help then you can support him…marriage is through sickness and health
You said you caught him once and he stopped - so I’m curious as to why you call it an addiction?
My husband masturbates and sometimes I feel a bit insecure when I catch him and/or see his history. But then I remember I watch porn too. And when we are together the thought of what he’s interested in kind of disappears because of our chemistry.
I enjoy watching porn that doesn’t really fit the characteristics of my husband. Doesn’t make me love him less or that I’m not attracted to him.
Sometimes we even watch it together and show each other our interests.
Porn isn’t necessarily bad unless being consumed multiple times a day and affecting your sex life or life in general.
he told me it was an addiction for him. When I confronted him about it.
Wake him up with BJ and night time . Don't wait for him to ask you that he's horny . Surprise him w/ nudes pictures and he will stop . That's what stopped my husband since we got married.
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