grandma keeps kissing my baby

so my grandmother is around 81 yrs old so a boomer per say, and i’ve told her, as well as my partner, MULTIPLE times to not kiss him. it’s been 7 mo since i gave birth and i have to tell her every single time to not kiss him. she is not senile or anything and very healthy for her age. just seemingly refuses to respect my boundaries. what should i do??
(p.s. little backstory- cutting her off completely would be detrimental to the family considering how everything went down w my dad(her son)
plz lmk what i should do

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She wouldn't be allowed to hold baby anymore. 7mths of warning. No.

My husband’s grandmother is 100 in 2 weeks and kisses my son. Not often but it drives me bonkers and he says “let it go. She’s old”

I have a no kissing rule too. Thankfully the rest of my family respects it

I agree, time to stop letting her hold the baby.

how would u go about breaking that news? i’m terrible with confrontation

Top of the head MAYBE but never face or hands. Your baby your rules. 7 months of being lenient is enough.

@Madi "grandma, unfortunately you have not respected my boundary of not kissing baby right now and because of that I can't trust you to hold them because I can't trust that today will be the day you won't kiss them. I love you and I hope you can learn to respect me as a parent." And however she feels about that is for her to sort out you have given her seven mths of reminders...like grandma, quit playing.

dang I can't imagine telling great grandma not to especially 7 months. Just my thought tho

Do you live with her? Surely you don’t see her that often? I don’t think you should waste your breath. She is old. She will not be changing her behaviour anytime soon! She has also experienced trauma from whatever went down with your dad. The poor old lady is probably just praying that your son grows up to respect you as she feels she should have been. She may also be kissing him in the hopes that her life is preserved to enjoy seeing the baby grow before she dies. Don’t visit there as often, and clean your baby after every visit is my humble advice.

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