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I know there’s going to be a lot of people who think I’m a mug… but… my ex (baby daddy) ended our relationship 2 weeks ago, we’ve had on and off contact (mainly about our daughter) we have another baby on the way currently, to cut it short he told me he no longer felt the same about me. Since we have split up he has been living between his mum and friend, he is adamant he’s going to get his own place and he is happy on his own but tonight he asked to have sex with me?? I gave in and we had sex but he left pretty much after and said “I’ll text you” I’m quite happy just sleeping with him I’m not interested in getting to know anyone else but why would he want to sleep with me if he had no feelings?? Am I just being delulu?? 🙃😅 I’m genuinely heartbroken I love him so bad

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Idk if he sleeps with anyone else but he knows he can come have sex with you whether he’s playing an active role for you or not. I’d say kids too but you didn’t say he was exactly deadbeating y’all’s girl so

As harsh as it sounds ... I guess he knows you'll sleep with him? He's just getting what he wants from you without the commitment

Unfortunately due to being pregnant your emotions are heightened, so you're going to feel everything intensely. I feel if you take back the control & not let him decide when he gets you or doesn't it'll make it real to him that your accepting that it's over and he might realise what he's lost.. I hope you make the right decisions for your mental health long term🫶🏼

I would be super careful sleeping with him unprotected or even at all. I would suspect he’s sleeping with other women too and during pregnancy is one of the most dangerous times to catch something as herpes can actually cause birth defects and stuff. My partner and I have to use condoms the rest of my pregnancy just bc he has herp and I don’t. Just throwing that out there bc I know I didn’t know this and we only are with each other but did have to get tested when I was pregnant with my daughter and my ex cheated. It was scary

Men will have sex with anyone regardless of how they feel about them. Just make sure you’re being honest with him and most importantly, yourself- especially being pregnant with his baby 🩵

Oooo no girl. What is you doing!?!

herpes doesn’t cause birth defects.

It’s because he knows you still have feelings and he can get it from you, try the 3 day rule. No calls, no texts, no communication (apart from if he asks about the kids) if he asks for sex, just blank him. Make it known to him your not going to be used.

Dig your bar OUT of the ground please....

GIRL! Do not give him anymore coochie! PAHLEASE! He’s having his way. You sit at home with the baby, pregnant, working, he leaves you at your most vulnerable & YOU STILL sharing your body with him?? That’s a NO NO. Giving your body to a BOY who can’t even take care of himself let alone THE KIDS YALL CREATED is INSANITY. So to your question, YES you’re being delulu but ITS OK! It’s still early, still feelings but you have to buck up and stand on business! No no nookie for Mr. Pookie

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I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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