Baby blues

Sorry you’re feeling this way! I would talk to your husband and let him know it feels like he is avoiding you and the baby, and whilst you know he is probably tired this phase isn’t going to last forever and you could really use his support. He might feel like you just want to be with the baby and don’t want him there so give him the benefit of the doubt.

Then in terms of when he is at work is there someone who could come visit for a few days or someone nearby who can pop in for a few hours to help you out? Mum/sister/friend/MIL?

You will get through this! Please also talk to your health visitor / doctor if you’re feeling like it could be post partum depression xx

Definitely talk to your husband and any family/friends that you feel will be supportive.
Being a mum is the hardest and can be loneliest time.
Try and make sure you get out for a walk each day, eating and drinking water too.
Don't be afraid to ask for help there's only so much you can do ....you need a break as well.
And also congratulations on your new baby 🥰🥰

Thank you both. I will talk to him about it. Sadly, I don't have much family or any friends to stop by when hes at work. I spen majority of my day trying to sleep when baby sleeps and house work

Are there any local baby groups? I went almost every day with my youngest just to get us out the house

My midwife told me if it lasts longer than two weeks it's postnatal depression and needs medical treatment. The drs pr midwife's will be able to offer support without judgement. You are not your hormones, your hormones can make you feel crazy and alone at this time but you have to tell yourself "it's the hormones" they can make you feel crazy. I would join a baby massage group or baby sensory you can take the baby to, just to get out of the house and talk to other new mothers. They need new born baby massage groups.

yes, except they all require baby to be 1 month. So I am looking forward to those when the time comes

thank you, I am looking forward to joining some groups as soon as my little one turns 1 month.

Honestly it can feel so full on and overwhelming and the fussier the baby the harder it hits I feel! You need support looking after little one, just being away from
Baby for an hour or two can make so much of a difference as it gives you time to feel relaxed, shower, bum around, nap, that when it’s time to go back to baby, you’ll feel better:

Tbh my husband has also gone back to work and just because he does, doesn’t mean he is exempt from helping! Being a mother is a 24/7 job, there’s no designated lunch time, there’s no breaks for coffee, there’s not clocking out for the evening or the weekends! My husband’s a dr so he needs to be on alert for work so I try to take most of the night shift with me waking him up at around 6 for support - or he’ll give me the weekends to rest and will take the night shift! Or if not that, then during the day on the weekends or weekday evenings he’ll take baby and do everything other than feed (im ebf)! You’re valunerable right now, you need support 💕

Ohhh really that's annoying. Ours you can go whenever, I took my youngest from 2 weeks.