I don’t like people being alone with my kids. How do y’all feel?

I feel like it’s probably from trauma but the anxiety I have about leaving my children alone with people for even an hour is outrageous. I either know too much or too little about someone to feel comfortable letting them be alone with my kids. Only about 8 people I feel comfortable with and even that’s iffy.

My kids are 2yr and 4mon, not sure if that’ll change once they get older and can communicate more but for now idk. I want more trust and peace.

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We will only leave our children with my parents. We do allow our children to go to the nursery at church as well.

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I don’t trust anyone but my husband to be alone with my daughter

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only man who can be alone with her or only person?

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My boyfriend and I only trust my mom to watch her and she's only watched her once. Our daughter is 4 months

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I’ve never left my daughter in 2.5yrs. Trauma makes me terrified but I know I don’t want her having any childhood trauma. I’ve also never had a need to have someone else look after her 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I only trust my partner, my mom and his mom and dad. Its not a bad thing, I think we can all agree it's better to be over protective than risk our babies coming to any harm. We will never regret being overly cautious x

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My 2 year old goes to her nans every Friday but if shes anywhere else my anxiety’s high, nobody has looked after my 1 month old alone as I have incredibly high anxiety surrounding him so will not let others have him x

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I only willingly left my daughter with my parents for maybe a hour max before she turned three this past weekend she had a overnight stay (lovely military lecture that hubby and I a civilian had to both attend in the next state over) but the only other people I’d trust her around alone is with our best friends (both our best friends are married to each other lmao and they are also her godparents) and my husbands other best friend who he’s known for almost crap 12 years now but they live halfway across the country (lovely military life for all of us 🙃) I know my fear stems from a trauma in my childhood as when I was four-five I was molested by my uncle who had also targeted my older sister. I feel like the more she’s been talking and understanding things I’m getting more okay with it all because I just mentioned in passing to my mom in a bath at five that it was happening. But I know it also stems from just wanting to protect my baby from any harm it’s been hard

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My mom and her great grandmother 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

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I have gotten sitters occasionally but always at my house, I have cameras so I will see everything. I also meet them a few times before I let them watch my kids. I’m polite and professional but I also know what I will do to some one who even remotely tries to hurt my kids. My son is autistic so if he doesn’t like you I will know automatically and my daughter can talk well enough to let me know if anything happens

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Think you’re smart!! I trusted & learned trauma I was so conditioned thinking was normal…. Trust your gut. Although sometimes you’re going to need you time…. I always found it sketchy daycares etc that don’t allow parents to watch / have visibility. Maybe hire someone willing to have nanny cam…. Give you some comfort until you know you can trust them. 🙏❤️‍🩹 Sadly people’s words & actions seem to be more & more out of alignment. Make sure your babe has the awareness that being loving & kind is the right way to be….also unfortunately makes you a vulnerable target for people looking for opportunity. Be well & stay safe!

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Only person

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Didn’t really get the luxury as I had to go back to work at 6 months. That said I don’t trust anyone with my oldest especially as he got older as he has autism.

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I only trust my partner to watch my son. I will let my mom watch him (she wants him to have sleepovers) when he’s old enough to articulate his feelings so I know if he’s actually comfortable or not🤷🏻‍♀️ I have had people help out and watch him while I was still around just busy. But I never left him completely alone with them.

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Same. I just don’t trust people for valid reasons

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