Venting

I have a burning rage towards my bd I hate him but I know it’s wrong to hate, I’m so upset and how he done me, and he is a deadbeat as well he barely takes care of his first child with, but sometime I miss him and want to work it out, just cause I feel like won’t find someone better sometimes I’m just going through the motions I guess but I block then unblock him but I’m thinking about blocking him for good because he doesn’t do shit for our 2 month son his excuse is he’s getting back on his feet, and trying his best but that’s all an excuse. I’m just frustrated about the type of father my son has. I hope to meet a man who will accept me and my son willing to be a role model for him

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I feel this in my bones. The father of my two girls is a complete & utter disappointment. Absolutely useless at parenting, vulgar comments towards me, but happy to spend my money. I wish he would sign all rights over to me & completely leave us alone, since he's never provided for them. Doesn't even bring a pack of nappies or offer when visiting. He refused to work when here to my face as we were arguing a lot from the way he is towards me, my mum & my friends. Treated me like 💩 since 4 months pp with my first & my entire pregnancy with my second (conceived at 5m pp) & continues to treat me like it up to this day & probably is always going to. I kept thinking I wanted him to stay, but once he walked out for the last time (in/out since my 2nd turned 4 days old) I couldn't ever imagine having him & his 💩 ways here again. Honestly, you really don't need him. There will be a real man sometime in the future but for now focusing on us as mums & our children is the only thing we need to worry about 🥰🥰

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

I feel physically sick

I was going through my partners phone. He doesnt mind it. I let him go through mine,we have our emails on the tablet im an open book nothing to hide. I fine this one girl on his phone, they know each other they used to work together. Then I see that he is asking about her dating life blah blah. Then he texted "lucky enough you are one of a few beautiful" um WTF & " thats what i said if not i will have been with you" we have a 16 month old together we are engaged. I cant sleep he is sleeping next to me and I feel so sick I cant ive cried twice and I feel like im breaking