Baby won’t settle in her own crib

Baby is 4 days old and will not settle In her next to me cot. Any tips on what I can do as I can’t leave her to cry

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Have you tried a Moses basket instead of next to me? When I had my first LO he was the same and perhaps was overwhelmed with the size of it and the moses basket seemed to help :)

We had an awful night last night but now she's downstairs in her moses basket she's absolutely fine so going to take that up tonight and give it a go

Maybe try swaddle before putting down so LO in deeper sleep? Or seen some people put the cot cover in their top for a bit so it smells like you? My little girl was the same but has now started going in it xx

My 2 week old was the same for the first week or so, now he’s starting to settle in his next to me. I make sure he is completely full, let him feed in his sleep sack, burp him and let him fall asleep in my arms and then transfer him making sure his bum touches the mattress before his head. This routine seems to be working for now 🤞🏼🤣

We have this and I think a lot of it is because she’s cluster feeding and is extra fussy at night because she sleeps anywhere in the day 😂 but also the mattress in the next to me is so cold and uncomfortable for her. So making sure she’s cosy and warm and very drowsy helps when I lie her down and I’ve been using white noise too. Think longest stretch she did in it was an hour in it which was a lot more than the nights before! Just going to persevere x

Maybe warm the crib with a hot water bottle before putting baby in. Gently rock the crib if possible too, or hand on chest when they stir. Other than that just stick to perseverance! It’s a lot for them to get used to, and it may be that they need more gradual separation from you, but it will get better.

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.