FTM unsettled baba

FTM and baby boy is 4 days, he’s been very unsettled last night and today, he’s pooing and seeing as normal but won’t sleep anywhere but on my chest. Won’t even go to dad for a cuddle! I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do for the best 🥺

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Are you breastfeeding/ milk coming in. My first was the same on night 3. I think because of my milk coming in. We were still In hospital and it was hard! He would only settle on me and I was exhausted! I remember throughout the night on my own I would feed change cuddle try to put down repeat. I definitely had a cry and the midwives reassured me it’s normal and I was doing everything right. Have you read about 4 trimester?

All I can say if your not doing anything wrong, be kind to yourself and it will pass xx

My daughter is 10 days and she’s the exact same. But like Natasha said, it’s normal and this will pass. You’re not doing anything wrong x

I remember day 3 and day 10 were the hardest days for me. He’s 3 now and I still remember!

Im bottle feeding but my milk has definitely come in yesterday.

Thank you! he was getting used to his cot at night, yesterday and then last night I couldn’t even put him down and same today. I think I’m worrying cause he won’t go to dad either so that I can try and sleep, I don’t want to put him down, if I don’t need to but even going to the toilet he screams and it’s breaking my heart 😫

Same for me 😭 my boy is a week old now. nights are so hard I’m starting to wonder if he is a colic baby but the midwives say it’s normal

it is so difficult, last night was a real test we got through it, but it was a test

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.