MIL RANT!

Can I just rant because I have no one to talk to about this and I don’t wanna bring this up to my husband anymore. Soooo my in laws frequently visits us since we had our Son. He is 4 months old now. And we lived 2hrs away from them. I don’t mind them coming here and there but recently they went on a cruise and came back sick!!! Most of them got cough and flu and can still hear them coughing through facetime before the said date to visit my son. A day prior to their visit I sent a message asking if everyone is not sick for tomorrow’s visit, and nobody responded back. So when they came to our house my MIL immediately wanted to hold my son, and I politely asked if she’s okay and not sick? She made a big fuss about it in front of the whole family and crying telling me that if she is sick she won’t come, and feels offended that I even ask if she’s well. When i’m over here just trying to be careful about my son’s health!!! Tell me if i was wrong about being cautious and protecting my own baby. 😩

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I would have called her to confirm before she even came. I don’t take my babies health lightly. As they grow up a cough won’t hurt them but when they are little stay the heck away

that’s what i’m trying to say to her! But she made a big deal about it taking it as an offense 🥴

My mother in law took offense to not kissing my baby. She got over it after talking to my husband, but she thought it was a personal attack. Let her know it is an expectation for all people wanting to visit your baby.

I know they get so salty when you set boundaries with your kid. That’s also exactly what my husband said. But she’s over here made a big drama.

Yup. My husband and her cried during their talk. My mom took it a lot better. She was sad she couldn’t kiss her but understood why I didn’t want her to.

You are definitely not wrong!

I don’t know why they have to be entitled like that, it’s not their baby.

thank you! 😭🙏🏼

Sometimes they play victim in front of others. Don't let it bother you mama. Do best by your baby (like you did here). More strength to you ♥️

My in-laws have complained multiple times about not being able to kiss my baby. I’ve literally taken her away from people about to plant a kiss on her. It doesn’t matter whether it’s only when they are little or for as long as you see fit, your kids = your boundaries.
Babies health is nothing to mess with

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