Am I overreacting? What do I do?

I would work out your options; you could stay with him, try and work things out, hope he makes more of an effort in the future, based off what you tell him you want to change. Or you split up- what does that look like? Where do you/he live? Where does your son live? How do you split the time between you with your son? Does that seem like preferable to your current situation? Only you can answer those questions. But not saying anything and staying frustrated and upset won’t change anything. I hope you work out what’s best for you and your son

I usually work weekends but booked today off for mothers day. Baby woke us at 7am, he yelled and went back to sleep until 12pm so I got up with the baby, fed him, cleaned the whole house, fed and walked the dog, got the baby to nap, finally managed to shower myself and eat some breakfast. When he eventually got up he shouted at me because I found my mothers day present.. he put it in a plastic bag by the bin so while cleaning I obviously looked inside to see if I needed to take it out with the rest of the rubbish. Then he was walking upstairs swearing under his breath so I said "what's the matter" and he responded 'I'm not talking to you fuck off'& disappeared for another half hour.
I thought he would have booked us a table for food but he said he phoned up yesterday and everywhere was full unsurprisingly.
Then he said about going for a walk and a picnic and that never happened.
Got the baby down for his second nap and my partner woke him up for no reason.
My first mothers day was not what I expected at all😥

If I’m being honest, and I genuinly hope it helps to hear another perspective, but it feels a bit both sides. It’s like you are so frustrated in general that anything he does or tries to do you may blow up at him for, like you are waiting for him to annoy you. He came into the kitchen and asked to help - I get it can be frustrating to not just do but bigger picture is he was trying to help you. Sounds like a bit of a communication issue/mix up with the garden situation. As for leaving the house - not good to not communicate but again I don’t feel this is a strong suit and I’d give him slack on staying at his parents - I would hate to stay at my in laws. I’d be much more comfortable at my parents. Communication seems lacking in general but you seem so frustrated that it’s likely he doesn’t feel he can talk to you. I know this as I can be like this also with my partner sometimes. He can frustrate me so much even when he’s trying to help and I snap.

Breathe. Go give your mum a hug xx

I agree with Jess, sounds like you’re at the end of your tether so the guy is walking on eggshells and trying to keep out of your way. I only say this because I’ve been there myself. You need to recharge so you’re snapping less

First of all, I'm sorry your mother's day hasn't gone how you deserve. It is the same time every year, it's one day of the year, there's not a single reason for dad's not to be stepping up for this.

So, him staying at his parents I wouldn't be upset about because like Jess said he may have felt uncomfortable staying with your parents. *However*, that does not justify him not communicating with you while he was there or making an effort to spend time with you. But, I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he just doesn't want to be with you anymore (unless this is one incident of many over a few months).

As for today, a grown man does not need help knowing what needs doing. He has eyes. But you told him anyway to save the fight and he STILL didn't do anything to help you. That's not miscommunication or misunderstanding, that's straight up 'I don't want to do any of that'

Commenters saying she has made him walk on eggshells need to check yourselves. She shouldn't and doesn't have to put up with this behaviour with a smile. Unless she clarifies otherwise, this is clearly not a first instance of this behaviour. People don't get this frustrated and burnt out out of nowhere. He's been neglecting her needs and his role as a partner and the consequence of that is a frazzled, fed up woman.

OP you need to have a conversation with him about what you've told us here and how's it's made you feel, and how he reacts and responds will tell you what you need to know. If he discusses the issues and gives his side of things, and agrees to make a team effort to communicate better then excellent. If he reacts angrily, rudely, turns it round on you, blows things into a fight or tries to give you the cold shoulder then he's showing you he knows exactly what he's been doing wrong and he doesn't care how it makes you feel or to change. Then you decide if this the life for you. Good luck x