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Anybody else struggling to make friends? I don’t have friends not to talk of a best friend. No one seems to want to have a conversation that flows else it ends in couple of days like it’s a struggle

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Hey Bee, I know the feeling 😌 I’ve sent you a message anyways. Have a great week!

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Totally get it! And this app is supposed to be about making friends🙄

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I get you and it’s tiring for real

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exactly. It is supposed to be about making friends but I guess it’s really not

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it’s very tiring honestly. Makes one feel alone on some days 😔. I randomly just drive around town with my little one 😆 without a direct place to go, I mean just to keep my sanity.

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I find this therapeutic 😆

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I agree with you. I honestly don’t like if I’m the only one putting in efforts and the other isn’t, makes it seem like one is forcing the friendship or it’s probably not wanted.

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yes it shouldn’t. With me, it feels like some gives a one off response so the chats gets to a dead end and they barely contribute. I mean it gives the vibe of “I’m not into this or trying to make it work”

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Exactly. And we all claim oh we are finding it hard to make friends, this and that

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I've had people talk to me, follow me on insta for a time and seems it's going well just to remove me randomly mid convo, I've messaged first many times just to be completely blanked too. Takes the wind out your wings a little because all you want is that interaction/ connection just to feel human. I feel you. It's not everyone but there are a lot of people who just don't consider feelings or don't know what they want. I hope you know it's no reflection on who you are & anyone would be lucky to have your company. It's what I keep having to tell my pregnant scared self anyway 😂🫠xx

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it happened to me and honestly it made me give up on wanting to make friends for a while. Damn. I reacted and got talking with someone who posted about wanting friends and whatnot only for me to start getting one reply text. Like for real, it’s really not a deal if you don’t want to be friends with someone but you shouldn’t reply them. 😆 It made me feel like I was desperate for a friend and made me step back from trying.

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oh my, i completely don’t like this. And yes, they are inconsiderate it makes others feel they’ve done something wrong or desperate.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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