Sleep help

Has anyone been in a similar situation or any ideas what to try?
We originally sleep trained our boy and he was the best sleeper until he turned 1.
He turned 1 and I also found out I was pregnant unsure if related and his sleep has just been awful since. He goes down at bedtime fine we put him down he probs takes max 10 mins nod off and then some point in the night he wakes. We probably made the wrong decision but we were that tired trying put him back down that we ended up bringing him in our bed. We are still in this cycle but it’s like he now splits his nights he won’t go back in his cot but when he’s in ours he’s wide awake for hours singing bouncing playing, we try not react leave the room dark put White noise on. We are shattered! Has anyone had similar and know how we can get out of this? X

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What is his day time routine like, is he maybe having too much day time sleep and not enough awake time before bed? That can cause split nights x

he tends to have 1 nap around 12 which can be 1-2 hours long goes bed around 7 -7:30 x

I would try pushing the nap to 12.30, the capping the nap at 1.5 hours and then try bed time at 8 and see if that helps. We had to adjust wake windows etc to get rid of our split nights x

thank you for this did they still wake up in the night at all? What was your approach at trying get them back down? X

No now she rarely wakes to be honest! She does take a dummy which she puts in herself if she wakes up, very occasionally needs a cuddle or little back rub but its really rare now x

I'd try stretching the last wake time window, nap at the same time if he's ready but cap at 1hr 30 max and then see if he sleeps through. Split nights can take a while to resettle so whatever you try, give it a go consistently for a week or so! When we had bad split nights, we were settled again after 10 days x

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