Taking 6 weeks old to Bowling

My partner’s cousin has invited us and all his families/relatives to bowling to introduce to his fiancé’s family on Saturday.
My partner is adamant on taking our 5 weeks old (6 weeks on Saturday)to the bowling place. I am not eager on taking her with us since
1. it’s indoors where there’ll be many different people
2. coming in contact with all relatives all at once and his fiancé’s family so early before her jabs
3. she is a colic baby so she cries a lot and it can get overwhelming

I don’t know if I am overreacting by feeling like this. but my partner is not happy as he wanted to take her to the place.
Am I overreacting? Is it ok to take 6 weeks old to indoor crowded places yet?

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I don't think you're over reacting.. 6 weeks is still little... and a bowling alley is extra germy, IMO... I didn't take my baby to meet anyone till she was 2 months after her jabs. We didn't want to risk her getting sick and running a fever. If anything, you could always baby wear her so she doesn't get passed around 🤷‍♀️

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With my first child I was like that. We didn’t come out til she was 3 months. My newborn now I took her out a couple times since she was about 4 weeks. She been around family, in the store, etc. You’re not overreacting, you do what you’re comfortable with. But if you do go out, bring hand sanitizer, I brought mask with me for ppl and if you can get the noise cancellation headphones.

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I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. It’s totally valid to be wary of crowded indoor spaces before LO gets their jabs you’re definitely not alone there. Also, having a colicky babe is stressful enough I personally wouldn’t love taking them out in public if they’re going to be having belly pains. To each their own of course but I think your points are more than reasonable

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I was in a similar situation. I chose not to go bowling for the same reasons. Also, it's too loud. I tried going to my niece's school play, and even that was loud. My little one was scared at 3 months. It's not worth the stress, in my opinion.

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No you’re not overreacting. It’s too much too soon

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If you do end up going, put baby in a carrier & don’t pass bubba round, especially since they’ll have had their hands in the bowling balls 🤢

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Stay home- take her to a park-she’ll be miserable and you’ll be miserable

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I would not take my baby to a bowling alley so young, i can't imagine how many germs are in a place like that. My baby met some close family members before her first shots but only the ones i know would respect our boundaries to keep him safe. There's no real point in taking a 6 week old bowling, it's not like she'll be able to do anything. Could you suggest meeting some family before her shots and the rest in small numbers afterwards as a compromise? And try and make your partner understand the risks

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Invite a few people over one weekend and some others the following weekend. Your are not overreacting. Doctors and hospitals say limit the number of contact people and small groups and also limit public places.

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I’m probably the only one that disagrees with this. With my second life just continued. I took her to a birthday disco which she slept through, my son’s nativity, swimming lessons which I had to get the bus for.

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We took him. He napped mainly in the pram and it was fine. We don’t reject invites if we get invited, we go. It’s not germy if baby stays in the pram or in your arms. And I can’t bowl if he’s strapped to me while bowling. I didn’t mind my sisters holding baby while I bowl though

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I would be same as you to be honest as 6 weeks is still very tiny. My partner also wanted to take her to see few friends at once but I said no, didnt mind one friend at a time until she was about 3 months old. Just explain to him that it would be overwhelming for you and for the baby ❤️

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Don’t take LO bowling it will be a lot of noise. I would ask if you can have coffee with them before or after bowling

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Nah. Think of it logically..is the baby going to enjoy it? Obviously no? Are you going to enjoy it? Unlikely. So no. Don't go.

The only even I did when baby was this young was a family meal out for our niece's 16th. Hard work. Couldn't wait to go home. Massively overstimulating.
Faaaaaaaar too much.

I don't even see the point in him being so adamant about taking the baby. What's the point? So they can sleep, cry, shit and stare at the ceiling in a noisy germy place instead of at home? Yeah. Makes perfect sense.
Stick to your guns!

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