I hate my husband but want another baby
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Ignoring all the logical ways that it would be a nightmare to have a baby with someone you supposedly hate it’s so unfair to put a child in that position on purpose
No I would never do this
We're conditioned to think that it's somehow better to have children with the same dad, but that's really not always the case! Wouldn't you rather leave your husband, work out your feelings and when you're ready figure out what kind of man you'd want to be with and what your green and red flags are, and then have a baby with that person once you're settled into a relationship? Blended families are just as valid as "nuclear" families, and if it means that you and your child/ren could have someone who is genuinely good for you then I know what I'd do
The think of him as a sperm donor.. I don’t really want to meet another man or get married again.. my husband and I are still married just a very rough patch which neither of us care to fix anymore so whether this marriage will last or not god knows.. but I have to think of my biological clock too as I am in my 30s
I don’t think a biological clock is an excuse to have a child with a man you don’t like and he doesn’t like you really. There’s nothing wrong with being an only child either. Plus, you have this child then what? He’s not going to really care about you when you’re pregnant and you’re going to do everything alone. Is that what you want your son growing up to think is okay and acceptable for a man to do? This isn’t judgment, just the truth. You guys don’t like one another, don’t make another child from that. Your son deserves parents who love each other and should grow up to see that.
My biggest question/concern around this is, do you plan on getting his permission to have another baby? That is something that you absolutely have to agree on. And if he agrees to it, then surely that shows there's hope for your relationship? I would be looking at couples counseling before considering having another baby with him. And if he doesn't want another baby with you, then maybe you should just end it now to have more chance to find someone else. Your child having a full biological sibling is not a good enough reason to do this.
No way, you're crazy to even consider this! Why is it SO important that your kids have the same dad? So what if they don't! My 3rd has a different dad to my older 2, but they absolutely adore her, it never even crosses my 11 year old sons mind that she is only his half sister, she's simply just his sister! I very much doubt your husband would want to even have another baby with you anyway if he knows you'll leave afterwards, as let's face it why would he want to pay child support for 2 when he could just do it for one!
“Think of him as a sperm donor” is what did it for me
He does want another baby and has been pressuring me to have another child for the past few months but I didn’t feel ready as I had a difficult labour and I wanted a slightly bigger age gap before adding another baby as I am sole carer of my child and husband is always working. We have issues but he is the bury ur head in the sand kind of person and I just feel I don’t have the same love for him anymore based on certain things he has and has not done. I just don’t no because yes I do want another baby but I don’t no if with him but I’m pressuring myself due to age and not really wanting to meet anyone else
Personally I wouldn’t have a baby with a person I can’t stand especially if you want to leave. Go out there and find a a partner who would love to build a family with you and vice versa. You deserve better than that and your kid and future kid as well x