Am I in the wrong?

No. You're not in the wrong. You should not have to hunt down dirty clothes. They should be tossed in the dirty hamper. Simple as that. My job is to make the house run smooth and to try to make everyone's life easier. But my partners job is the to do the same. So, having me hunt down their clothes so that I can then wash it for them, dry it for them, fold it for them, and probably put it away for them isn't fair. Put it in the hamper or it doesn't get washed.

Hes still in teenager mode. You sound like his mum

I recently started just throwing away my man’s socks bc he’ll leave them everywhere and won’t pick them up 🤷🏼‍♀️

I completely understand your side. Personally though when I'm doing laundry I do a quick sweep of the house for loose clothes, towels, and socks. I do still ask for my husband to make sure to put clothes in the basket and he does it sometimes.

He does do laundry though and understands why clothes need to be put in the correct area.

I don't do my partner's laundry. I've done it a handful of times in our whole relationship when there's been nothing else but his in the basket. If he hasn't got clean underwear he can go commando.

Tell him from now on he’ll do his own laundry. My teens do their own 💁🏻‍♀️ they are 19 and 17. I happily do my husbands only because I find notes and coins all in his pockets, it’s payday for me 😂 but he’s never ever complained. If he ever complained, he can do it himself I have no problems in saying you can do your own laundry I ain’t touching it, if I needed to.

My husband does all the laundry. He refuses to pick my pants up off the floor and that's fair enough 😂😂

The fact he just keeps doing it shows how little he respects you- not only do you do his laundry, he thinks it's your job to grub around on the floor for his dirty underwear. Every time he throws pants to the floor he's making the choice to do that, he's like ah well not my problem now my junks not in it!

The only suggestion I could make is to get him a separate laundry basket and put it in the area where the pants are usually most dense. Tbh though it does sound like he belongs in the bin himself.

FYI I asked my husband and he said 100% you're not in the wrong. "He's a grown man he shouldn't let his woman do that." - my husband.

He also wanted me to tell everyone that he does all our laundry now 😅.

Clothes that are on the floor mean they are unwanted. So get thrown. Clothes live either in basket or closet. He is lucky you are doing his laundry, you are nice.

No way I'd pick them up! I don't even pick up my teenage daughter's and after I repeatedly asked her to pick her clothes up and put them in the laundry basket or they don't get washed she ran out of underwear. Oops. She now picks them up ! Do not give up, you're no one's maid!

I do all the laundry in the house. My husband doesn’t complain, he just lets me know that he’s running low on tank tops or underwear. When I’m all finished with the the laundry, he tells me thank you, and that he appreciates me.

Are you married to my husband too??? 🤣

Are you his mom?
He can clean his clothes too

He should be lucky you do any of his laundry with that attitude

That’s absurd. You’re correct—you are not the maid and he knows where laundry goes.

Thanks guys! I thought as much but the amount he brings it up I was beginning to think maybe I am in the wrong 😂

I’ve recently stopped putting any of his clothes away. I used to pair up his socks, everything in the drawers etc. He’d complain if it was left on the airer for more than a day as it ‘takes two seconds to do’ well yeah now it’s a lot quicker!

You're not in the wrong. I say if it's not in the washing machine it doesn't get washed.

my partner does the lion share of the laundry in our house (and yes he works and I’m still on mat leave 😂) I wouldn’t expect him to wash any of my clothes if they were not in the basket, also if I want something specifically washing in a time frame I put on a wash myself.

As someone who leaves her clothes everywhere and frequently doesnt have what i need: no. You are not wrong. He can either make sure his laundry is where it needs to be to get washed, or deal with not having stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would be like ‘oh, why didn’t you put your washing on’? Some men get away with SO much and they treat you accordingly, please know your worth and set some boundaries if he’s treating you like that when you’re doing it then he can do it himself!

Ugh mine does this too, in the bedroom and bathroom floor 🙄 I get so annoyed that he doesn't pick them up even after telling him countless times!! Your husband is in the wrong, he's getting his clothes washed, the least he could do is put them in a freaking basket!

it’s literally right outside our bedroom door, it’s easier for me when I put our sons washing in there and stuff from the bathroom. I don’t want to make it any simpler for him 😆

Good for you actually not picking them up and sticking to it. They are on another planet. Mines the same but he actually did a wash a few months ago and asked how to use the machine 🤣 it's been 10 years haha then moved washing and didn't pair up my socks or anything so now all his clothes get dumped on his drawers and that's that. It's so petty but it drives you insane.. if he's getting in the shower he could drop his clothes into the basket yet chooses a floor so f'ck him haha stick to it!

To be honest, I am your husband 🤣. My husband does all the washing in the house and I never manage to get my washing in the basket. I just throw it in the general direction. He picks up and washes it. He has his flaws too, like if he dishwasher is empty he will still just leave his stuff on the side and i will put it in. No-one is perfect in our opinion and we just pick our battles!

Now having read the comments we are very much in the minority here 😬

I could have written this myself! I used to pick his clothes off the floor then he complained cause I washed some trousers he "wasn't finished with" so I stopped washing clothes that were on the floor, tbf he soon started putting things in the wash basket, now I don't mind if I'm picking a few things up because I miss a few things too😅 but most of it is in the wash basket and to be fair to him he does a lot around the house, if he didn't I'd definitely be kicking him into touch!

Just here to say I feel you! My husband does the same thing! I don’t get it 🤦‍♀️ I told him I’m not going on scavenger hunts for his clothes when I’m trying to so the washing. It’s gotten a little better but he still struggles.

Nope and he knows why and anyone who comments knows why. Example he complained one time he didn’t have socks (because I didn’t lay them out for him) MiL jumped on me until I had enough and brung his sock drawer full of paired clean socks to the living room and dumped it out. Another time it happened bc she brung up the no sock thing laughing, he said he still didn’t have socks, I took everyone to the bedroom with the broom, brung out his dirty sock collection and flopped the empty laundry basket on top of it. His family and friends learned not to listen to his whining and he’s lost a lot of friends over it. He calls me mean and embarrassing but I’m not here for it.

I want to clarify the dirty socks were under his side of the bed where he kicks them instead of using the laundry basket directly beside his nightstand.