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My husband told me that I can leave my job and be a stay at home mom now that he makes enough money. I had mentioned it to a few people and everyone literally told me no don’t quit your job that’s a horrible idea so now I don’t know if I should quit. I honestly hate my job but it does pay good and I would rather be home with my baby instead of having him in a daycare. Just want some advice

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You already know the answer, don’t take people’s opinions into account. Do what is best for your family x

You don’t have to stay home forever. I was about to go back to work (my son is two) and then I got pregnant again so I’m going to stay home a little longer. Give yourself a time frame (I gave myself a year) and then reassess. I sat down with my husband and I decided I wanted more time at home. Or if you get 3 months in and absolutely hate it just go back.
I will say my husband and I talked very directly about finances and he gives me a bit every paycheck that I have in my own separate account that is JUST for me (I’m not allowed to spend it on gas, groceries, kids etc unless it’s MY choice) and I feel like that has helps a lot of things in our marriage and my independence

I used to work from home with my kiddos but the workload got to be too much to do both so am now just a SAHM. Literally living my best life! I know there are challenges to being a SAHM but honestly this is like a dream life and it sounds like something you really look forward to so I say go for it! If you change your mind at any point you can always go back to work 💕

yeah I’m only planning on doing it for about a year

thank you and yes I definitely want to try working from home at some point

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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I have 6 weeks left of work and they have completely changed my job spec including my job title and all my responsibilities, they have done this ahead of advertising my maternity cover apparently to fit business needs which I am fine with but i explained as long as it doesn’t effect me before I go. They have now turned round and said they want me to do the training for it before I go and want me to sign a variation in contract asap. Are they allowed to do this? I thought you had the right to come back to the same job within 26 weeks and I haven’t even left yet and they’re changing it? I was going to see what the job was when I got back and go from there but now they’re wanting me to sign this change in contract before I go I don’t know what to do, do I have to sign it ?

I’ve loss it finally

Please help me good or bad advice I need it !!!
Quick rundown had my baby 3 months ago her dad was cheating on me all the way through pregnancy u til 2 months pp . I was depressed and sad along with pnd ! I allowed him to leave my house sleep about and come back I had no fight left in me I was broken emotionless didn’t want to be here . Fact forward to a few days after valentines day a male friend brought me flowers ex didn’t like it called me all the names ect but 4 days later begging me back I tried for our daughter but he’s put his hands on me twice in the month daily name calling body shaming
Then today we was out his friend rang him why we was in the car to say he has 2 girls for them to go link this was on loud speaker ! I lost my shit arguing we got home I seen red n went for him I then got the hammer & smashed his car windows . I know that was wrong but being goaded daily put down n body shamed made me hate him then I just seen red

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