I co-sleep and still contact nap my 6 month old

Is it bad that I co-sleep and contact nap with my 6 month old? Am I a bad parent?

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My first contact napped until he was 18 months and he was too heavy for me to chuck in the carrier. Second one, contact naps every chance I get. Welcome to the bad parent club!
In all seriousness it's not bad, as long as you're co sleeping safely, it's nice to have that connection with your baby.

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If it’s working for you, you’re absolutely fine. Lots and lots of parents cosleep and contact nap, it doesn’t make you a bad parent in any way. Some babies are also harder to get to sleep independently.

If you want to stop doing it, you can try to gently wean your baby off of it, if you’re happy to do it and baby sleeps well and is well rested, keep going!

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My daughter is 6 months and still contact naps to get a big nap each day. If not she only sleeps for 30/40 minutes usually. I value her sleep needs getting met over her independent sleep. She will consolidate her naps independently eventually xx

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I co sleep with my little one x

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Nope you are a great and responsive parent tending to your babies needs ❤️

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We contact nap every day but she sleeps in her crib at night x

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Thank you all for your response! Sometimes you just feel you’re doing it all wrong when you speak to other mums. Glad I’m not the only one ❤️

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Whatever gets you the sleep you need is my motto. Co sleeping here with my 6 month old and 27 month old because it is the only way we all get sleep in this house!! (Doing it safely before any sleep police jump on me 😆😆)

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I feel much better reading these comments . Mine is 5 months and only contact naps in the morning . If I try putting him in the crib he wakes up in 5-10 minutes 😪. He sleeps fine in bassinet overnight . Do they eventually learn to sleep independently later ? Or am I stuck 😂

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I had to gently sleep train my daughter to take naps independently which she now will do but will only sleep max 30/40 minutes herself she needs a contact nap to extend her naps

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how did you do that ?

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