Am I too insensitive? Please read!

Me and my partner currently live with his parents by choice, and at first everything was lovely and going well until my MIL started passing remarks. The first time it happened I didn’t not pay her attention and simply ignored it until unnoticed that each time that I greeted her she’d ignore me and would not speak to me for weeks because of something I might have said or done to her son. We’re expecting our son in a couple of weeks and me and neither his parents have spoken for weeks because of a dispute we had. For context we’re Jamaicans, I had bought some baby items and had them sitting on top on the dishwasher and removed a “ bread pan” that we had on top of it which is mainly used to store bread and snacks as we would back home she then said to me that I should removed them and keep the babies things in our room and i questioned why she then went to explain that to prevent her husband from flashing or making a mess on it her husband doesn’t cleans up after himself and is a bit messy and unorganized in the kitchen and the first thing that came to mind was that’s unsanitary I don’t want to have them in the room we was going back and forth on it until I told her that I will keep them in the room and I was fine having this conversation because I wasn’t going to go back and forth with her. I then proceeded to bring the things in the room she started to curse out loud that I’m disrespectful she’s the first in-law that she has seen that was so disrespectful…..mind you I have never disrespected this woman then said if he knew the type of person I was her son couldn’t have brought me in there and she was the one that got the place and no one’s going to run this place. I did not respond and haven’t till this day neither have I spoken to her or her husband. This woman consistently disrespects me and I just had enuff and decided I wasn’t going to speak to her.

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Also back in the days the bottles were always kept in mom’s room back home!

I hate to say it but you’re living with them so you have to go by their boundaries and wishes for the space you may be living there but it’s not really your home she shouldn’t be disrespecting you but end of day you can’t remove items and place things in a home that isn’t really yours.

Mils are always going to have their own way and will most likely be hard to live with. It's best not to live with them ever.

we pay rent here I maybe should have included that we don’t live freely here. And it’s not about the bottles it’s what was said which was uncalled for I do appreciate the honesty but uncalled for.

I never believed until I lived with one myself 🤣

Oh 1000% uncalled for but rent or not it’s her place and these mother in laws consider themselves the queen of their castle and feel threatened by other women in their space you’ll never be right and you’ll never win. Speaking from experience I’m now no contact with my mother in law

😔 she’s was throwing and knocking down stuff while she was cursing like she was trying to show dominance

That’s exactly what she’s doing and in her eyes you’re the problem for not falling in line like everyone else. Even if you pay rent she sees it as her doing you a big favor so you should be grateful for anything she gives or allows you to have. It’s ugly but in her mind somehow true

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