I will never ever EVER understand how a parent can forget their child is in the backseat of their car

I don't care how much the parent is juggling or going through. There is NEVER an excuse to forget your child in a car. If you forget your child is in the car, or need something to make you remember that your child is in the car, you shouldn't be a parent. Period

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THIS. Like how? I always take my
Child out of the car first and rather leave my phone than my child. Like idk how they forget kids in the back seat.

This is such a bad take. People get into routines and become creatures of habit. Disruption of the habit results in error. One parent only goes to and from work and home, and the other takes the kids to and from school/daycare. Disrupting ones original pattern can result in the error, especially if the child is quiet or falls asleep.
I haven't done it, but I can see how it can be done. It is so tragic, but no one wishes for this to happen to them. It just happens.

exactly. I'm always constantly checking the rearview mirror to see my daughter.

A routine shouldn't disrupt your ability to recognize your child is in the car. Going to a different location by accident, normal. Forgetting your child is in the car simply because your schedule got messed up? Not normal.

My mom worked 12 hours shifts and NEVER forgot I was in the car. There's no excuse if you're a good parent.

not only that. I carried her for 9m and I had a c section. She is part of my routine. Change of routine is not an excuse. Once I got pregnant, it wasn’t about just me anymore.
Not even sleep deprived do I forget about my child.

It sickens me that it's happened so much that cars come equipped with reminders to check your back seat

This! My daughter is a miracle she is my life! I could never EVER forget her. No matter how tired or if my routine changed. It’s unforgivable to forget your child.

My thing is, I get for maybe TWO SECONDS forgetting they’re in the car but like how do you forget you have a whole kid that’s not with you for any extended period of time. Did you forget you were a parent like it has to be intentional.

It's a grave mistake because babies die from this. I'm sorry about the employee but you put the child in the car seat, that should send signals to the brain that the child is there. You forgot for 30 seconds, you remembered that is good. You were Aware. Doesn't make you a horrible mom. It's the parents that completely forget are the ones I'm referring to. No disruption should ever make you forget your child is there. Period. If someone is that spacey they shouldn't be a parent. Again, my mom worked 12 hours shifts 5 days a week and NEVER forgot I was in the car. My dad was extremely routine oriented, never forgot I was in the car. It's not an "easy" mistake to make if you're competent. You had a tiny spacey moment and that's okay, but completely forgetting your child for hours? Unforgivable.

I 100% agree. How can anyone parent or not, primary caregiver or not- forget a human being! A precious baby angel who’s whole life is in your hands. Idk about anyone else but since the moment my daughter was born there is not a single second I have ever forgotten about her.
All I do is worry about my baby, so I think there’s something psychologically wrong with those people. I think there’s a real reason why these things happen- neglect.

I never understood that. How can you forget. When I hear things like that it pisses me off

me too girl

I agree. But also it shows that there’s a huge lack of communication between the parents. Because even if hubby dropped off the kids at daycare everyday I would msg a lil after and ask “baby’s dropped off okay?” Just as convo. Everyday. Let alone the occasional one. If he forgot, it also means she didn’t ask/checkup.

Even when I KNOW my kids aren’t with me, I check the backseat, so I don’t understand it either.

me too

I look for my daughter even when she's with her nana for example when my husband and I go run errands that are quick. I'd never leave her in the car especially when it's starting to get hot.

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Relationship rant / advice? long post

I'm not sure if anyone can really give me advice here, but I'm gonna lay out what's gone on and how I'm feeling and other factors.

So my partner and I found out I was pregnant early on into the relationship (back in 2024), and at the start of this year we had a massive talk where I said I feel like it's got alot to do with the current distance and tension between us. It was something I was worried about initially.

Now by distance and tension, I'm on about the slow decline we have gone through. It started about my 3rd trimester, and him and I both agreed alot was to do with my mental health as someone with severe C-PTSD and a disability that stems from it. This is something I have been actively working on getting help for. We also agreed that he had faults too, and overall it became a bad cycle of us both feeling like the other wasn't doing enough, and negative emotions building up against eachother. Alot of it was to do with me feeling him start to decline In the ways he showed love. I could feel his positivity draining almost, and he would never talk about it. Always said his mental health wasn't the best and shut it down.

This was through postpartum, all of 2025, we finally discussed it at the start of 2026, but it was along the lines of "we can't carry on like this, and we both have felt clocked out of this relationship, but we don't want to end the relationship because we still love eachother and want the same things".
So we agreed to start actively communicating, trying to make changes because we want to get back to what we were.

But I can not stop stressing, and thinking about how much my other half brought up how he's got everything figured out for if we end things. He was very clear on saying that he had clocked out to the point of not hating the idea of co-parenting, and even started taking about us salvaging things after a break up, it was alot. Really confusing. And just felt like he was trying to end things right there. But when I asked him if that's what he wanted he told me he will never be the one to end the relationship...

Now, its been a couple months, he expressed his poor mental health, I advised he go see a therapist and even offered to help him with this process. I've picked up where I need to, I've started getting more help, recently I've taken on most of the housework after studies too. And he seems happier, keeps telling me things are better but now I'm the one feeling like it's never going to change. He still hasn't started the process of getting help after promising me he would, I told him its integral to this relationship. That I'm stepping out of my comfort zone time and time again for the sake of him, us and our son, and I expect the same from him. There's also little things I brought up that mattered to me that he just isn't doing, whereas everything he brought to me I have taken on board and apply daily.

I can't tell if it's the poorer side of my mental health being as negative as it always is, or if after the conversation and some other things he has told me, I've started to lose the want to mend things. Its gnawing at me, I feel like we have switched roles and I just don't know what to do. I'm waiting on therapy to get back to me with my appointment dates. I'm waiting on the consultation for medication, and I'm putting 110% into this relationship whilst I feel like he's doing less. And I know physical appearance isn't something that should matter so much, but I've been really looking after myself, putting in the effort not just for him but for me, yet I'm watching him let go of himself. Which yeah, mental illness does that to a person, but as I mentioned he's not doing anything to help himself. There is only so much I can do.

Most of me feels like it's my fault. That in trying to heal whilst in an active relationship and post-partum I've caused all of this. But a small part of me feels like that's an unfair take.

Weird feelings

I am now 2 and a half months PP, and I was just looking at my scar. It feels so surreal to me. I had to have an emergency C-Section after 20 hours of labor and an induction that worked too fast. It's so strange to me that this scar is on my body, that it's where my baby came out of. Everything was completely the opposite of my original birth plan, but I could not be more thankful that they caught the reason for my c-section when they did. That still doesnt change the... almost impostor syndrome I feel when I look at my body and my scar. I've changed so much, it's so strange to me

Sleep though the night

Any tips on how to encourage my 5 month old to sleep though the night

Wtf- husband edition

The past 2.5 months or so, I’ve been the primary night time (and daytime) caretaker of our 5 month old. I feed him formula before bed, then breast feed him on demand throughout the night. Before, we’d have shifts through the night in different beds so each of us could get sleep. My husband started sleeping in the same bed as us around that time and he’s moves aggressively in his sleep and snores. As you can imagine, I don’t get much sleep. The only time I get uninterrupted sleep is for 4-5 hours in the morning when the baby sitter gets here. Meanwhile my husband sleeps 6-7 hours each night, no problem.
Tonight, I told him I really needed alone time and sleep for my mental health. He agreed and offered to take the baby and try to put him to sleep.
Knowing our child, I told him some of the different things to try to get him calm or keep him calm. The quickest way being to get in a warm shower with him. He agreed.
So why did I have to listen to my baby crying for about 45 minutes??? I tried to let my husband figure things out but eventually I couldn’t take it anymore. I got out of bed and went and asked if he put the baby in the shower and he said “no, that takes too much effort”.
WHAT??
I do bath time almost every day!! He has done bath time ONCE in the five months.
I asked for just a couple of hours to myself to sleep and he can’t do whatever it takes so baby isn’t crying so I can sleep??
I’m livid.
I ended up taking our son. He just fell asleep on the boob and, of course, my husband came and fell asleep too. Somehow I’m the only one awake after I asked for much needed sleep.
I know arguing won’t help but I’m so upset. I just needed to vent and maybe cry.

Bedsheets

Do you change your bedsheets after sex ? Our lil girl tends to sneak in our bed through the night so
I personally do
but just curious what others do ?

Spit ups

My newborn seems to spit up almost immediately after every feed . She’s bottle fed formula. I’ll like burp her for a moment and after she burps she’ll like spit up the formula she had, not ALOT but a good amount. Then she’ll do it like 2-3 more times later on after that. Can’t tell if this is normal or not.