Stressed
I’m due in October with a baby. I feel so overly stressed because whenever my partner and I fight he throws being a SAHM in my face and that he financially provides for everything so.
He literally will end an argument by saying shut up, or storm off and stomp when I have a 4 year old sleeping. Multiple of our arguments I’ve told him he needs anger management before the baby gets here or just isn’t going to work. He will literally get mad cause I answered a phone call before laying down and the phone call was from my other sons Grandpa on my first baby daddies side but he was just updating me on my sons aunt that is having complications during birth: I really saw no problems with it.
But idk I miss going to work and making my own money. Yesterday he saw no problem with the fact that he demanded to use my car the minute I started cleaning it. Even tho he has a spare car just “didn’t want” to use it. Just the littlest things.
Maybe I’m the problem and it’s my pregnant hormones
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No it’s not just your hormones, most guys can’t provide happily nowadays.
He says I’m just looking for an excuse to leave and make it seem like I’ve already made up my mind about this relationship. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but i just feel like someone’s money isn’t worth a man that has anger issues that he’s trying to hide
Yeah that’s not normal behavior. He is using his earnings as a weapon to belittle you and your needs. You can’t make him change if he doesn’t want to.
He always responds with” I own my own buisNess, I provide for you and your son” but it’s an argument cause I set boundaries still when it comes to things. We got in a stupid ass argument about him not changing the cat litter for ever and I was like I’m pregnant and cannot eventually I did and covered… he’s just too tired.
When I tell him he can’t say or do certain things with my son which he’s close to… he just is like “I do so much with him, I provide a lot for him and spoil him.” I tell him u still can’t talk to him or treat him a certain way etc
I also don’t have a high libido being pregnant so maybe every two weeks. So maybe that’s also playing into it. I also sleep on couch because my back has been killer with the pregnancy and the only bathroom is down here because I use it a million times and we were sleep training my 4 year old and he’s also down here… so idkk
Dude… it’s not you. You’re way of speaking shows how far his claws are sunk into you. I can tell how he speaks to you base on how you speak about yourself. For both of your children, love yourself. He isn’t worth your self-esteem, your self worth, or anything else.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through at this time.
Hope things work out for you and your family.
Look after yourself and congratulations on your pregnancy.❤️
It's definitely not you. A real man will WANT to provide for you and see you be able to stay at home with his children. He seems very selfish and controlling. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
Oooof yeah id dip tbh. You have a 4 yo and you probably know how stressful postpartum is for both parents. If he is acting like this before the baby and not wanting to change, I wouldn't stay. My husband never throws money in my face as he makes way more than me. I went back to work part time after my second but im leaning towards full time sahm after this third. My husband is all for it and excited to provide for us. The way your man is treating you is not okay.
If you're wanting to maybe work things out Dr.Chavonnes podcast is awesome in helping to learn how to communicate in relationships.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4l4eNnNnDisHtOj9VIRNRs?si=-vAQlSWjTDOz36AoSEhi6g
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