Smut vs porn

i read spicy books from time to time, my partner does not watch porn but if he did i’d be okay with it as long as it didn’t negatively impact our sex life

I’ve asked my partner not to watch porn, he’s asked me not to read spicy books I didn’t want to to begin with but all good over here

I read lots, mostly psych thriller types but some romance smutty stuff and imo it’s incomparable to porn. The porn industry is multi billion dollar industry that is fundamentally intertwined with the subjugation and objectification of women, and even tied to rape culture and human trafficking. so many men get literally addicted to porn and I’ve never heard of any woman getting addicted to reading romance with smut. it’s just not the same lmao, you generally also gotta put in the work of reading the book and getting randomly surprised by it popping up in the story versus intentionally just doing something for that quick hit

With that said, my husband doesn’t watch porn even though we’ve never discussed it as like a boundary I think he just prefers not to plus knows how I feel about it, but he doesn’t care about me reading smut, I think maybe he’d care if it was like all I was reading 😂 but yeah he’d be getting a lecture from me if he ever suggested it’s the same as porn

I read SMUT. And IDC w him watching porn or going to the occasional strip club w friends either coz it’s not somewhere he’d go by himself casually on a Friday night it’s always been for a dudes bday or bucks etc. because I don’t have an issue w porn he doesn’t make it an issue and he doesn’t hide it when he does watch it, which is rarely. He also has a ton of pics and videos of me on his phone to watch if he wanted to.

I enjoy reading smut & I also enjoy watching porn!
I don’t have to worry about hubby watching porn anymore because he can’t get himself off anymore 🤣

I used to get upset when he would watch it if I was at home, he should choose me first but if I’m not there he can do as he pleases

I kinda do put them in a similar category, actually. I know a handful of people whose relationships tanked, and I'm linking it to the romantasy novels! Men might've enjoyed a "dark" side of porn but women are doing the same thing with these imaginary smut fairytales! Suddenly, their real life isn't as perfect or exciting or edgy. It's just a different language for a different demographic. My 10+year relationship has had a fluctuating stance on porn watching but we currently do not and I do read a little here and there. He likes that it leaves me in the mood but if I ever hit him with one of those crazy questions, he's like "🙄 omg stop reading already" lmao. Like those "would you love me if I was a worm" type questions 😂
It's all fake! That's the bottom line