Nursery

So my son had his first day at nursery today, its a bit complicated as i work in the nursery (my first day too)
His settles went well and walked into his new room happy, however by 3pm i walked past and he accidentally saw me. He broke down and sobbed in my arms, i realised he had also done a poo so let them know. I then reluctantly said goodbye, but could hear him crying and screaming.
I got his dad to pick him up at 4:15 and he was still so upset. Im absolutely heartbroken, i know he will be the same tomorrow and i dont know what to do.
Please tell me it gets better, i know its different as ill be in the same building but i wont he able to properly see him.

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This must be hard with working in the same nursery. I'm actually surprised they allow this as at the nursery chain I work for, parents cannot work in the same building as their child. If your child sees you but can't come to you for comfort then it will cause them some distress. But im sure it will get easier with time.

Starting nursery is a big change for children and it does take a while for them to settle in.

My son goes to a nursery within the chain I work for. However I work at a different office, he does not see me during the day x

I work in my daughter’s nursery, for us it was so difficult because she was exclusively breastfeeding too when she started so every time I’d go and feed her she’d be distraught when I’d leave.

She’s now just turned 2 and absolutely loves nursery, it took her a couple months to get used to it and was better when I’d stopped feeding her. She still gets upset when she sees me but more so when she’s tired so her dad picks her up when he finishes work (earlier than I do). She settles very quickly from the girls I work with distracting her from me too.

It’s so hard working in the same place your children attend but it does get easier xx

Hi lovely, I also work in the same nursery as I’m son…and in the room just opposite. At first, it was hard. He would see me and cry often, but the girls were really good at settling him. He was a sucker for rocking in the book corner with his muzzy and dummy and that would help settle him pretty quick. He’s been there a year now and he might occasionally whinge for me if he sees me, but more often than not he just shouts “mama!” and waves and then goes back to playing. It absolutely does get easier, I promise! If you’re struggling though, maybe ask for a phased return to work so you can both do shorter days for a while until you’re both more settled.

Just take each day as it comes for now. My son took a few months to fully settle but got there in the end and now I think he prefers nursery to home 😂 xx

Thanks ladies, i appreciate your comments xx

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