Baby fell from changing table

I feel like the worst mum in the world. Bent down to pick up her dummy and next thing I knew she was on the floor face first with a thump. She screamed, I cried and she’s grazed her face and arms from landing on the carpet. She’s fine thank goodness and we’re now 3 days past it but I can’t shake the guilt. Feeling like she will remember that I caused it. Does anybody have experiences of something similar and when does that awful feeling in your stomach go ?!

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My nephew rolled off a changing table in a swimming pool changing room, onto a tiled floor 😭 He was premature and delayed in his development so my sister had no idea he could roll and he chose that moment to do it. He got checked out at A&E but was fine.

My niece also threw herself off a changing table at 10m and had to have her forehead glued 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’m sure it happens more often than you think! We’ve had a few close calls when I turn to grab a nappy and she’s just so quick to flip over.

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Aww I'm sorry this happened to you. We are only human! She will definitely not remember and definitely would not want you beating yourself up about! Sending love 😘

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Mine fell off the sofa last week!

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Oh no, I'm sorry!! Believe me she won't remember it. I dropped my first off the sofa when he was a week old, i was sleep deprived to the point I genuinely felt like I was going to die. I didn't even know I fell asleep until I heard him screaming. I cried all day, I felt like the worst person in the world, it made my sleep worse! I felt awful for weeks. Then he rolled off the bed at 6mo with my partner who looked away for 2 seconds. He felt awful for ages. Baby didn't even cry just crawled away like nothing happened. At this age they're so quick, it takes a second and you'll always feel awful compared to them. My baby who's 6mo fell off the bed he cried, had a cuddle and was fine I died inside. Honestly it happens to everyone!! You'll eventually get over the guilt, they're made of strong stuff x

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We moved house when my little girl was 3 months old, my little girl was on the bed while I was moving a bin bag, I accidentally knocked the tv on top of her (a fairly small light tv) she cried from the shock, I cried and was crying for way longer than her! gave her a cuddle and she was her happy bubbly self! We still took her to the hospital to be checked as my anxiety was through the roof, they are so much more resilient than we think!! I felt awful for a while but you do just forget about it and just be thankful they are okay! Now I take extra precautions!! It won’t last forever!! X

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These things happen and are definitely learning moments! You won't feel like this forever though it will fade and I know when my eldest got more mobile and started having accidents on his own I realised that you can't protect them from everything and they are going to inevitably fall and hurt themselves no matter how hard you try to prevent it. So long as you're there for comfort and support when these accidents happen then that's the most important thing ❤️

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