I’m the only one to initiate hangouts with my friends

I want to know what yall think about friends who don’t typically initiate hanging out. I feel like with some of my friends I am always the one to initiate. They’re usually happy to at least try and meet up if they aren’t busy, but they are never the one to text first or ask to hangout.

Should that be a sign that I should stop and leave them alone or maybe they just aren’t the best at initiating and I shouldn’t take it personally? I never know how to feel. Thoughts?

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Am going through the same thing I just took the initiative to just leave them alone especially when i voiced how i felt about always going out my way I gave them the benefit of the doubt but definitely realized they take the initiative with others but not me so I just cut them off

yes I’ve run into that same issue!!! My friends will be so nice and expressive of how they enjoy talking to me and my presence but then hangout with other people while telling me they’re too busy to hangout with me or not initiating with me. Kudos to you for actually saying something tho, I’ve always been too scared lol

thanks am not shy to speak up & sometimes that is my problem because am too blunt when I feel away I have to express how I feel& don't be let people know how you feel so you won't have to hear any excuses from others

Some people are just better at organising and planning so the planning is left to that person. In our group there’s one girl that holds us together, intro us to each other and kind of binds us in- I met her on peanut but she’d met the others all separately on bumble and FB so by now we all know each other yes but everyone’s originally friends w HER (if that makes sense) so she does most of the inviting but if I see an event that I wanna go to or think will be good I’ll post it and I’ll say “I’m attending this if any you girls wanna join” and sometimes they all joined but I wasn’t really “planning”? Per se. I was letting them know okay there’s a good event if you wanna come, come.

yeah I think it’s different for friend groups but when it’s one on one friendships the dynamic isn’t the same

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