How to deal with grief while pregnant

My grandad passed away last night and I just feel empty now. I’m only 7 weeks pregnant and feel all joy has just been ripped from me in this moment.

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It's still very raw, allow yourself time to grieve properly. It's my stepsister's funeral today and I'm 36 weeks. It's difficult for sure and everyone has their own process, but I find keeping busy at these times helps me.

Sorry for your loss 💔

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This is normal. You are grieving x

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My advice is to just let yourself feel it. Don't feel bad is you feel numb. Don't feel silly if you burst into tears in the super market. Don't feel guilty if you have to take time off work. You will feel conflicted for feeling depressed during what could be the happiest time in your life. I won't sugar coat it - this will be harder for you than anyone because on top of grief, your hormones will be all over the place.
So my next piece of advice is - let people know. Not necessarily about the pregnancy yet if you dont want to, but be open about how youre feeling since your grandad has passed. You could even mention 'I've got so much else going on right now, i just didn't need this to happen now'.
My last piece of advice is - tell people HOW to support you. People do want to but dont always know how, so they take a step back and wait for you to tell them. Sucks I know, but grief is a tricky thing and we all manage differently. Also LET them help. We often want to show we're coping - but youre not and thats OK.

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