My partner spends nights at his parents. We have 2 young children together. It’s pretty much weekly and either once or twice a week.
I think it’s super weird for an adult man to be spending night at his parent’s house when he has a partner & young children together.
Does anyone else’s partner do this?
I don’t want my children spending nights there and won’t be until I am comfortable for my children to have sleep overs. But I honestly feel like I am not his priority and the family we have together will always come second. But he gets super defensive about it when I try to bring it up and turns it on me.
He says he goes there for convenience if he has uni (but he doesn’t end up going to the university anyway??) or says he needs to get some sleep. (He doesn’t even get up to the kids throughout the night) ????
Super weird???? Or am I being dramatic.
How can I bring this up to him without him thinking I’m attacking his parents? But also why are his parents encouraging him to spend nights from his family when they claim to be ‘all about family’ etc etc.
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No, he doesn't..and when he does see his parents we all go together.
I would not be happy about being left at home alone with 2 kids.

That is super weird.
Unfortunately it sounds like he feels entitled to behave like a selfish child. In this case you call them a man baby.
I'm guessing you don't expect to not be around to lose sleep... raise your kids etc.
I was watching a thing recently about certain kinds of men who protect their down time after work etc.
They expect to be the only one in the picture to be able to have hobbies etc. And they treat their partners time like it doesn't matter.
Because when he is gone to his parents... it probably means he can check out and just do what he wants for himself.
I sympathise...as my babies dad didn't do the right thing re prioritising our little one either.
Why do some men suck.