How often do you and your partner have big arguments?

We never argue

The last argument we had was 6 years ago, we honestly have nothing to argue about.

I could have written that myself. The level of love and patience my husband has poured into me in the early stage of our marriage is honestly beyond me… I don’t think I could have done that!

We don’t argue, ever. We have differing opinions from time to time, but they are respectful conversations with both sides explored.

same. We’ve never had an argument nor raised our voices at each other

We've been together for 3 years and have had maybe 3 big arguments. One was 100% my fault. One was during the newborn phase, so it was bound to happen, lol. I'm pretty sure the 3rd was during his grief after his dad died, so I don't hold it against him(not that I would anyway).

I understand this. I grew up in a house with lots of yelling arguments, punching walls, and big blowouts. And then everyone pretended it didn’t happen the next day. I thought this was just how you handled disagreements.

When we first lived together, I used to get so mad at my husband (then boyfriend) because he wouldn’t fight with me! Like he would just stay all calm and understanding and I was so confused! I used to tell him to yell at me so we can get over this.

Took lots of individual and couples therapy for me to learn some better coping strategies. But shout out to my husband for refusing to fight with me lol

We're been married 10 years. We have a big argument (although the style is much more polished now) maybe once or twice a year? My gosh, the first few years it was a lot. So much so that it almost feels like an ex relationship because it's so foreign. Repetitive arguments are a sign that some serious communication needs to happen.

Like others have said, we don't argue, we disagree, occasionally. We talk and listen to each others opinion and reach a conclusion we're both happy with

Never tbh and my husband has never once raised his voice at or around me in 8 years

We’ve never argued in 7 years. I find it mind boggling the amount of people I know who are frequently arguing with their partners. Like why would you want to even be in that relationship?

Also I’ve had people on here tell me that it’s unhealthy to never argue. Like I’m sorry for communicating effectively I guess???

from someone who’s been on both side… it just felt normal arguing because that’s all I’ve known my whole life but then I met my husband and his parents and how they communicate with each other, I was completely taken back by it. It felt like everyone was just putting on a show to look good but now 6 years in my marriage and knowing the feeling of peace and security… I can’t imagine being a relationship where yelling and constant arguing is a thing. Like I even asked my husband when was the last time we argued and he looked at me confused and asked what kind of question is that! Neither of us can remember the last time we had an argument… so I can’t imagine how my parents live like that for over 30 years!

We bicker oh yes over stupid small things or maybe parenting methods etc. But never in front of our daughter. We both grew up with parents who fought regularly & bad big fights. But both of us knew that's not healthy. We fight big maybe 1x annually & don't speak to eachother for a week- this is called a lull in a relationship.

This is healthy! Relationships aren't perfect but no, you shouldn't be fighting every day or every week or every month in a big way.

Like I said we bicker lol, I just slammed my cabinets this morning bc my husband forgot to pick up sugar so he couldn't make me coffee 🙃 so I went to make coffee & before busting out crying 30 weeks pregnant with 2nd- I became a bit hostile lol 😆 but I'm not screaming, he's not screaming, he felt so bad lol he gently touches my back as I'm at the coffee pot & says "I'm so sorry baby.. I'm gonna go to Starbucks right now.. okay?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭💖 Then our 5 year old hugs me so tight "it's okay mama, I'm so sorry we forgotted sugar, we love you so much"

Oh I absolutely get that! We have two couple friends that are so obviously together just out of habit and familiarity. But they must notice that they’re the only ones that end up arguing or being bitchy every time we go out and see that everyone else’s relationships aren’t like that?

Me and my partner are the same, I left our car keys on the roof and they flew off on the motorway gone forever and my partner didn’t even say a single bad word, I felt so bad since it’s him that’ll have to go through the hassle and pay for new ones and he was just like “well you didn’t do it on purpose did you?🤷‍♀️”

It’s not normal/healthy to have big blow ups - me and my partner might get a bit attitudy or need some space for 10 minutes but we never shout, yell, put eachother down etc -we just talk about the problem and come to a resolution - I don’t know what’s it’s so hard for some people to do that