Anyone else partner refuse to hold baby

It's his child too and he should want to spend time with her! It's a full time job with no breaks looking after a child all day! You need time for yourself too!

He sounds like a waste of oxygen to be brutal, he clearly doesn't want to hold his child which is disgusting

This is absolutely unacceptable. He should be doing his share of the child care and housework. I would be sitting him down to explain that it is not okay. To him asking for a day to himself, you should insist on the same for you!

I say to my partner that once he’s home it should be 50/50. For example, if he works 9-5 then my shift of solo parenting is also 9-5 as it’s just as hard as his job. Then when he’s home my shift is over and we’re a partnership - although I do usually get up if LO stirs in the night just cause I hear the baby before he does.
In terms of getting a break, again it should be fair. If he gets a day away to himself EVERY WEEK then so should you, or whatever you feel you need.

I’ve explained my exhausted he said to me other day he feels it’s my job to hold baby I’ve been really struggling with the house and he said if you won’t put my clothes away what’s the point I’m guessing meaning of the relationship my mental health is so bad atm I’ve constantly having to see doctors .. I don’t even want a day to myself I just want to go do family things he goes out then doesn’t want go out on the other day cause he goes out once a week so once to spend the other day at home 🤣

he says works harder 🤣🤣🤣 with my first the dad was never around I did it all she has massive problems health wise he begged for a kid I was kinda one and done .. he wouldn’t even get up to her anyways he would just tell me to go sleep in another room he won’t even wash her bottles I literally have to do everything obvs my first time I don’t really have anything to go off for the first couple weeks he was great until she got out the new born stage and needed entertaining more

honesty I’ve been starting to think this when he got together he had a huge house perfect for a family I only had a two bedroom .. he then sold his house when I was pregnant and said he was guna move in with me ( we was living at his ) … he doesn’t pay any bills bar food shopping I pay everything including everything our daughter needs every month … I just need to give my head a wobble I’m miserable and just need to vent I feel like I’m being used

I’ve tried to explain this but his just getting worse I honestly think I’m better on my own currently cleaning up after 4 people including myself on my own while looking after a baby and a disabled child 😩 he gets in from work had a shower and sits on his phone

Tbh it sounds like he’s checked out of it all. Maybe it’s time you think about asking the hard question of whether or not he wants to be there.
Obviously I’m only an outside view but tbh it probably would be easier on your own, you’re doing all the work at home anyway but you won’t have to cook and clean for him on top of you and the kids.
We’ve all had bad days or days we wished our partner would do more but it sounds like this won’t just be a phase here.

yeah I think that aswell we barely even chill together .. he keeps asking if my disabled daughter will get better because he says he don’t wana stay if she won’t obvs I don’t know her outcome as I’m still waiting on mri and tests but either way she my child so …. If she does or doesn’t il raise her regardless I think he don’t wana leave because he pays nothing that’s how I feel anyways …

I just don’t understand if someone’s unhappy or checked out then just leave my only thought is I pay everything so that feels the reason he don’t go …

I think you need to leave honestly, sounds like he's making you miserable I can bet you would be 100x happier without

I honestly am so sorry you’re going through this.
He shouldn’t be asking questions like that about your other child, that’s disgusting imo.
You say you’re struggling with a multitude of different aspects and he’s 100% only making it worse.
You need to leave, focus on you and the kids and I can bet you’ll feel so much happier in the long run.

isn’t that what women get ?

leave him honestly just not even worth your energy.. some men arent programmed to be fathers

PPD can affect men too - I’ve linked an interesting article below. This sounds like a lot more than that though, and like you & your children deserve better. Wishing you lots of luck.

https://www.postpartumdepression.org/postpartum-depression/men/

I don't think it's ppd. Expecting you to put his clothes away or there is no point and complaining when he has to hold your baby ... 🚩🚩🚩