Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

PPD 2 years later?

Is it possible to get PPD 2 years after giving birth? Maybe at this point it's just depression. I just feel exhausted from being alive and keeping the ship (that is life with a toddler and a job) afloat. I started antidepressants and have been feeling a little less exhausted but now just have more clarity about how I feel overall unsatisfied with my life. I look at friends gathering without me, at other people living their lives, and just feel like there's a party going on and I'm stuck on the outside looking in.

I feel so incredibly lonely and isolated. Ive tried really hard to make friends in the city I'm in (moved here 5 years ago) but the suburban sprawl and the limitations of motherhood just make it so hard to connect with anyone.

I found out this week that one of my closer friends I do have here had a bday party and didn't invite me. Makes me feel like I value these connections more than they value me, and if I disappeared or dropped dead, some ppl might be sad but it probably wouldn't make a big impact. I feel so untethered. Sometimes I feel like I could just disappear and float into space if it weren't for my toddler keeping me here on earth.

And everytime I complain about things I feel like I'm the worse parent because my husband never complains about anything. He solo parents when I have to travel for work, he supports my career, he does domestic labor to try to make things equitable at home, and instead of feeling grateful I just feel like I'm the incompetent one in our family with all the issues.

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I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It’s not an easy feeling, and it’s completely valid. Postpartum depression is real—there’s no timeline or rule that says it can’t happen. You know, it takes a woman’s body three to four years to fully heal after giving birth, so please don’t invalidate yourself. Give yourself some grace.

You’re dealing with a lot right now—physically, emotionally, and mentally. On top of that, feeling hurt because someone you thought was a close friend didn’t invite you to her birthday? That must have been painful, and I’m sorry you had to go through that.

And feeling like you’re struggling as a parent while your spouse seems to handle everything with ease—that can be such a heavy, lonely feeling. But it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. Everyone’s capacity looks different, especially when healing, and especially as a mother. It’s okay to need support. Struggling doesn’t make you any less loving or capable—it just makes you human.

I think so. lol. I feel worse now that my son is almost 2 than I did year one. It’s like I lost myself and didn’t realize it until the newness of the baby wore off. I’m on the struggle bus just like you 😅

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Hey I really need to make some friends being a mom is so lonely. Distance does not matter to me (I can’t see waves)

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

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Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅