What’s everyone’s opinion’s on cot bumpers?

So I am looking for a cot bumper this is breath able but will protect my little boys head as he like to throw him self into the sides of his cot and has banged his head off the inside of his cot which has been leaving him crying

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i really really really wouldn’t risk it. a bump and cry is FAR less traumatic than the other possibilities xxx

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I’ve seen one that’s wraps around the wooden poles on his cot which seems a lot more breath able and there’s still air flow to and from his cot as he has just started trying to eat the wooden poles too

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My son's pediatrician recommended pool noodles over the slats and cover the noodles so they can't chew it. That way yes they can't hurt their head but also still breathable.

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Not worth the risk imo, theirs not a single cot bumper that’s recommended by the nhs or approved for safe sleep standards regardless if they’re labelled as “breathable” because they’re not adequately tested on babies/children because the risk is just too high. It’s not just about it being a breathable material (yes they still allow air flow to the cot) but they can easily get their face trapped against it, get stuck and suffocate. My little boy used to do the exact same thing and within a month or 2 he’s stopped. I’d rather my child bang his head, cry and wake me up and eventually learn to stop doing it than wake up to a child that isn’t breathing xx

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Not worth the risk. I work in pediatric healthcare and crib bumpers are still one of the biggest reasons for suffocation in young children these days, even though we know the risk, because they are marketed as "breathable" when they're not. There is a reason there is not a single kind of crib bumper that is recommended/endorsed by the AAP or NHS. A bump from the crib rails will not cause any lasting damage, but suffocation is a real possibility with anything in a crib.

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My little girl was constantly bashing her head so hard on her crib, waking her up through the night. It is horrible when you hear that loud whack and then the crying, but it’s a short phase and they learn not to. I googled it and saw people saying it lasts about 2-3weeks but for us it was definitely over a month. But It’s best to wait it out rather than risk bumpers

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Absolutely not

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Even The breathable ones aren’t safe. They are a climb and entrapment risk. Babies have been known to to get tangled in the ties which has led to loss of fingers etc. they can also be used to climb out of the cot as they get bigger. They also don’t prevent head bangs as they’re really thin. Babies learn by bumps

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None are safe. Better to have a bumped head than a suffocated or strangled baby

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Should never be any option. Breathable is pure marketing means nothing. Your LO will learn to stop. If it continues maybe look into a floor bed.

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How old is your little one? I think age plays a big roll in what is and is not acceptable.

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9 months

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As others have mentioned suffocation isnt the only reason theyre not advised against and the thin mesh ones that are breathable that only wrap around 1-2 poles per piece to prevent strangulation hazard wont do anything to cushion the bumps, really you need something spongey but that wouldnt be safe. Its just a thing they have to learn not to do, if you had a mesh crib or toddler bed itd just be him banging his head against the wall its touching rather than anything you can protect so probably best to learn now on a softer wood than the vvv solid wall 🤣 as for chewing on the cot its vvv common and will do no harm to him or the cot bar looking a bit unsightly, its exactly why even cots must be made and painted in baby safe materials if mouthed on, tho you can buy bitter apple sprays to prevent this but its not necessary. Do be wary of the pool noodle solution if youve got a chewer!

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I would talk to your pediatrician and share your concerns and see what they think will be best. I know bumpers are a huge no no and you will get everyone being vehemently against them but sometimes your child requires something more. My 18 month old stands up and falls backwards (on purpose) and whacks his head and does this repeatedly. Some children are just more prone to giving us heart attacks than others.

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Companies are allowed to say things are “breathable” even if they’re not. They find weird loopholes. There isn’t a single bumper that is safe.

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