The heartbreak of your partner switching up on you

Baby run if he can’t see your worth don’t bother. You deserve so much better than someone who can’t understand how exhausting pregnancy is. Pregnancy is like a litmus test, if a man can’t even treat you right when you’re carrying his child he isn’t the one.

Honestly it sounds like he wants a mom and not a partner. Depression is hard enough but during pregnancy is a whole different level. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Focus on you and your baby ❤️

Sweetheart, you need to know your worth.
It’s better to be a single mother than having your child watch and/or experience the same treatment you receive.

what’s funny is he has several kids you would think he knows how to treat a woman while she’s expecting. He literally does not understand like I am exhausted and this man was YELLING at me mad cause he couldn’t find clothes to wear in his messy pile of clothes he keeps making saying “you lay in the bed all fucking Dayni can’t find my clothes and I can’t even ask you because you don’t know” you know how many times I’ve cleaned this man’s room and organized his clothes? He doesn’t put shit back where it belongs donut never stays clean long you gotta help keep up the room it can’t just always be me I’m not a fucking slave. I wouldn’t care to clean up after him if I was being taken care of as well in return but I’m not he doesn’t make me meals he doesn’t constantly check on me or my mental. I can’t ask him to go make me something when I get hungry.

and I NEVER want my child to see me get treated this way it’s embarrassing I don’t want them thinking that’s love or that’s ok.

thank you 🥹

His true colours have been revealed, same as my baby's father. I am 21 weeks pregnant and he told me he doesn't want to know anymore.

I think it shows you what you need to know, if a man who knows you are carrying his child can treat you in such a bad way then you make your own mind up on that.

As heartbreaking as it is, you will be better off on your own then looking after a new born and a man-child.

Sounds like he wanted the baby to trap you.
Now that you are further along and have less/ more difficult options he is being nasty assuming he will always have access to you.

Or he is panicking about parenthood and needs time to sort himself out. However, he should communicate not shut you out.

I’m so sorry. Definitely don’t stay where you aren’t wanted if that’s where you feel this is going-thrive somewhere else!

My husband cooks for me every weekend, and on weekdays he gets home early enough. A couple years ago I had a medical event, and he took care of me, was supportive and kind. You are supposed to be partners. Good ones are out there. Don’t settle.

I feel like he is panicking which I get and he’s been beating himself up but that doesn’t make it ok to treat me like shit you know….i give him so much grace and I’m understanding but this man has literally mocked me as I cried while he was being hurtful. You know they say hurt ppl hurt ppl.

Girl, that’s no man. He wants to be smothered all over but has nothing to bring to the table himself, pregnancy is hard as it is you don’t need to be around someone who’s going to make it harder for you, ESPECIALLY if it’s the baby’s dad. They think it’s okay to behave like that but when we speak up and take action it’s the end of the world. I’m two months pp and recently divorced, it’s hard but I’m at peace. Know your worth girl ❤️

I am assuming you’ve told him this? How he should and shouldn’t speak to you? How challenging pregnancy is! If you haven’t, do so with “I feel” statements and examples and all of that so he can’t pretend he didn’t understand or tune out.

That way if he does it again, you’ll know it was intentional and can plan next steps. Whether it be leaving or trying to talk again.

oh girl I have no more words left for him it’s too much narcissism going on. “I’m too emotional” any time it’s his turn to take accountability for his actions it’s “ I don’t want to argue this is why I need a break” why can we never fully have a conversation about anything without me being blamed for starting an argument just for him to turn around and say your playing the victim you are the cause of this blah blah blah. I’m taking it as he doesn’t care becquse he keeps on showing me he doesn’t.

Oof I’m sorry.

This sounds like a sign to take space. Pregnancy is risky enough without additional and unnecessary stress!

It will only be harder pp. My husband was great throughout pregnancy and first 5 months pp then fell off because he thought things would “go back to normal”. 🙄My point is things will be difficult post baby too. Decide if it’s worth also doing it with him around.

Always here to listen or chat!

Was he not like this before you got pregnant? As in did you have to do everything for him and moan about you being lazy etc?

Trust me this is only going to get worse when baby is here and you’re both stressed and tired & youre going to resent him for not doing his part so I would leave him now 100%

never ever called me lazy before this…he’s def going through his own personal shit but Jesus Christ I’m pregnant

thank you, I’m all for being patient and I know ppl go through their own things but it’s just not fair to have no consideration for me and I’m always showing him grace and trying to uplift him.

I know how hard it is. My husband completely changed after having our daughter and still is changing to where idk how much more I can take. I was so worried my level of depression during pregnancy was going to affect my daughter but she’s the happiest little girl I’ve ever seen. So loving🥰

I try so hard not to be depressed I just want my baby to be the happiest ever. And I plan on having a natural uneducated birth so it makes me sad to think my so called birthing partner isn’t being supportive. I’ll do this shit my damn self. That’s why I have a best friend.

I don’t think he should be excused for being stressed with the pregnancy , a pregnancy he’s not carrying, you are the one carrying the pregnancy,with all the symptoms and having to cope with all the house chores. If someone has a person that cleans up after them and takes care of them, the least they could do is be nice to them,be thankful and treat them well,not to even think that this said person is pregnant ontop of all this. I’ll not flinch if a person is being nasty to a normal person, but going through pregnancy myself I can’t imagine my man being nasty towards me, I will take out the baby and leave and he knows this (I’m sorry if I sound insensitive with my words, but I’m very strong headed )

Please don’t go back. You and that precious baby are worth so much more than to be treated that way. My jaw hit the floor with how he is treating you. I know it’s hard. And I know that desire to be cared for and loved. And how scary it is to bring a baby into the world alone. But please don’t let this person dictate who you are. That baby and you need better or at minimum don’t need that crap. Chin up. Tell him to piss off and see how good it starts to feel to give yourself the respect and grace you so greatly deserve