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Hi mommas, looking for some caring words or advise. I am driving myself a lil crazy. My twins are now 7-months old and at least one of them, if not both, still wake up in the middle of the night (usually once, sometimes twice).

My toxic trait is I complain when I don’t get help and complain when I do because it’s not done my way. They also don’t have consistent childcare (first it was grandparents now it’s SIL). Which I think is reason why they don’t sleep through the night. Am I crazy to think that?

I have no control over their nap times, how long they sleep, how much they get fed throughout the day . . . I started trying Ferber method on one of the babies (the other is great at falling asleep on his own) but it isn’t followed for nap times and it makes it harder on baby and me.

I need some help/love/support understanding if my frustration is valid or if I should let go a bit and let things be??

Thank you village 🙏🏽

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Babies wake up at night. That is normal. My twins didn’t start sleeping through the night until they were almost 2, which was earlier than my eldest (a singleton) slept through the night (at 3 years old).

It’s exhausting when they are little and wake up a lot, but it doesn’t last forever. My twins are 13 now.

I do remind myself maybe it’s just their personality to wake up at night. I was definitely expecting them to be sleeping through the night now b/c my first born, singleton began sleeping through the night at 6 months.

He was also attending daycare which I think helped immensely because there was so much structure and routine in his life. My twins don’t have that :/

that’s amazing that your eldest was sleeping through at 6 months! I think that’s pretty uncommon.

I keep on reminding myself that babies are not problems that need to be fixed. Their needs are different, and they need time to develop everything they need to sleep by themselves all night

😥 so true. Thank you.
I felt horrible day 2 of doing the Ferber method she wasn’t having it and cried for an hour on and off and I gave in and held her to sleep and I felt so horrible after 😭
I need to give them the TLC they need.

oh, I’m so sorry to hear you have been feeling terrible! Go easy on yourself. You are doing your best.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with comforting a baby that needs you there! You did the right thing. They will get there eventually. Hang in there xox

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