Silent treatment

So sorry love, you are in an abusive relationship and need to figure out a plan to leave. What he’s doing is called stonewalling. Sadly the people who do this are fucked in the head and there is no coming back from it as it’s usually so ingrained into their personality from very young.

Speak to Women’s Aid for help to get away from him. He sounds like a nasty evil piece of work. Stop worrying about him and his situation. I’m sure he’ll figure it out! You need to focus on getting yourself and your kids away from his dysfunction. Women’s Aid will also help you apply for benefits, housing etc.

This man does not like you, let alone love you. You really need to keep this in the forefront of your mind at all times. Do you want your kids to turn out like him? Think of their wellbeing if you ever feel like going back to him.

No person on this planet is allowed to give you the silent treatment. Nevermind the person that’s meant to love you the most!! Get outta there he’s a pathetic man and needs to grow up

Thank you both so much for replying to me Update I confronted him last night he said it’s not the silent treatment he’s not making me walk on eggshells he just has nothing to say to me he said the atmosphere here isn’t going to get better until I comply with him about raising our kids his way I don’t agree and I won’t sit back anymore if I feel something isn’t right I’ll speak up he says he doesn’t care if I stay or not he told me there’s the door he says he wants a partner who is on the same level as him when it comes to raising his kids but he said to me you’re still the problem here I told him I don’t like being at home anymore he just shrugged his shoulders and said things wouldn’t be like this if things were getting done properly I thought by me saying how I felt would have helped but it’s still the exact same today and what I’ve gathered from our argument last night is he doesn’t care about me and he couldn’t give me a direct answer if he still wanted to be with me or not

It shouldn’t be about raising the kids his way, your in this ‘together’ so should find something that works for the both of you and mainly the kids and if he can’t see that and just wants it his way, it’s about having control and that isn’t right. It creates a tense environment for the kids. It’ll drain you if you stay and you’ll probably feel guilty if you leave but you have to do what’s best for you and your children. It’s not a healthy environment/relationship. You might even feel better off not having a man child that throws his toys when he don’t get his way. You’re a mum and we always figure this stuff out, it’s not gonna be an over night decision but if you do decide to leave then it will all be okay and work out in the end. It has to get better for you to stay especially if you don’t want to grow hate and resentment towards him. The last thing I’ll say is do not just stay for the kids, I don’t mean it in a horrible way. It’s a good enough reason but it’s not enough.

You have to put yourself first, the happier you are, you’ll show up as the best version of yourself for the kids xx

I truly hope you find a solution that works for you and yours and wish you nothing but the best ! X

Thank you so much that’s exactly what I don’t want and I’ve noticed I’ve started snapping at family and my kids and that’s not ok I’ve spoken to family who told me he’s now trying to control the situation they’ve told me to leave I have told my partner this is a team effort we should meet in the middle but he refuses it’s either his way and that’s it I don’t want to leave we’ve been together for 12 years he’s cancelled our wedding as well as he can’t marry me he only went along with it to make me happy but I cannot take this and it’s clear he’s never going to change or listen to me see that’s exactly another thing I’ve always said I’d never stay for the kids as that’s not healthy for me or for the kids one of the worse things is my eldest knows somethings wrong and keeps asking me if I’m leaving his dad thank you so much you’re so kind xx

So sorry you are going through this.Ypu deserve to feel happy and at peace in your own home.Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse it's a repetitive tactic to gain control and for you to feel you cannot voice Ur opinions.It isn't normal it is very damaging overtime it will create anxiety & panic in the victim.Please choose yourself regardless if he has nowhere to go it only gets worse.The fact he sat emotionless is a clear indication he has no empathy I have been there myself it doesn't improve.Stay Strong Mama xo

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