overly sensitive or understandably upset?

You’ll be enough for someone else. Dump this loser. You’ve wasted 8 years of your life with this as*hat when you could be with the guy who will love you as you are!!!! I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure this for so long. 😭😭🩷🫂

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It sounds as if you are having to mask your beautiful self all the time. The person that loves you will love your loud laughs, your check ins and the thoughtfulness in which you care for your kiddos. My thoughts are that you are beautiful just the way you are. Highly sensitive people are incredibly smart! People who are “soft” are cozy to be around because they understand feelings. These offhand comments say more about him being closed off than it says about you. Ask yourself: who do your kiddos want to be around you or him? I bet it’s always you right? Recognize the unfiltered love and devotion from your kiddos is also what you can expect from a partner. Good luck and know that you are appreciated

Coming from someone who’s been told the same growing up (whether it be “friends” or family) AND my previous marriage, you are perfect just as you are. I’m sorry you’ve put up with this for so long but know that there IS someone who will see you, flaws and all, AND love you regardless of your past and how much it’s affecting you as an adult.

You do NOT deserve this kind of treatment from ANYONE and your daughter deserves a better father figure, one who RESPECTS the mother of his child, not DEMEANS her whenever he gets the damn chance. Please leave for both your sakes. I’m aware that is easier said than done, but how you’re feeling is absolutely valid 🫂 Those who voted “overly sensitive”, GROW UP 🙄

Sounds like he’s bullying you in your own home. Horrible for you and not something you want your daughter to grow up seeing. Definitely time to leave him and start a happier life with just you and your little girl, where you can both be yourselves 🌸

You’ll never be too much for the right person please always remember that! He’s been a dick & to put you down in general let alone to his friends is awful!

I’d be having a serious chat with him and ask what he even likes about you because all you hear is all these nasty comments & if he doesn’t rectify it then leave his stupid arse!

Leave he is bringing you down and no one needs that shit in a world like this

Sending love! This broke my heart 💔

So initially reading I could understand why being called at work to ask if I still like shoes my husband bought me, would bother me 100% lol. Me & my husband don't talk while we work or like even now I don't bother him unless he calls me bc I'm on mat leave now. So I can see that being OTT if you're calling him about little things during the day. That would also bother me personally VS let me text you or call you when I'm free to do that.

However reading more that you feel you have to water yourself down makes me so sad for you. Bc girl.. you should NEVER feel like you need to dim your light for ANYONE👏 PERIOD‼️I would try & work with him on what's bothering him i.e. calling him at work, maybe he wants more missing you time too.. but beyond that of giving him some space.. if he's on his video game too no offense (is he spending genuine time with the kids?)

This is so hard seeing you have also been together so young, not at all judging! I have a close friend whose been with her husband since 17 & 30 now

I'm just trying to help you figure a better resolution. You have valid feelings & so does he in some aspects. But I also don't want to suggest breaking things off yet, if you haven't tried counseling. I do wonder if you both could see someone biweekly or weekly for counseling & I do suggest a church as usually it's free❤️

You arent too much, hes just not enough.

Give this song a listen.
https://open.spotify.com/track/7JjymfuNMxQgOQJ4mGOdbg?si=uQCAnCxOSQO8lamM3EDEqw

I accidentally put overly sensitive but I didn’t mean too! It sounds like your boyfriend is a guy pleaser. Meaning he will say or do anything to seem cool or be accepted by another guy there’s literally too many dudes like that 🙄 I would literally be done with him. Very clearly taking you for granted. You are not too much of anything, it’s him. And he knows it. That’s why he’s trying to beat you down so you don’t see how much of a pathetic loser he is. I’d recommend not giving a shit about what he thinks. Be YOU. Don’t let your daughter see some asshole take your shine away from you. Laugh loud, dance big with your daughter, scream and shout happily around her. And ignore his negativity. Don’t let him stop you from being you. And for god sake be proud of who you are even if he thinks it’s “too much”. Hold your head up high while you’re doing it. Your daughter is watching and taking everything in. Show her how we deal with bullies.

And I literally call my husband at work for ANYTHING. He enjoys being able to FaceTime and see my daughter and me while he’s at work. We even chat for a little while. Your boyfriend is just an asshole.

I swear there should be a back button I mean to hit understandably upset

EXACTLY!!!!

You know what... you might be too sensitive, too loud, too caring, too kind, too needy...etc etc because YOU might be too much for HIM.

You don't need to shrink yourself, quiet yourself, or anything else. You've been watering yourself down to make yourself more palatable for him and he still doesnt enjoy you. Thats fine.

You can go to counseling together to see how you both can learn to care for one another and to be excited by each other again but if you feel like you are not YOU until youre not around him...then I think, for me, thats enough to tell me ive outgrown that person and we just dont flow together in that way anymore. Im not too much of anything, for the right person.

Did you buy him a new pair of " work " shoes?
Or nice good shoes for outing?
That's the difference and probably the reason he didn't wear them.
He probably didn't want to get them dirty or ruined.

Anyways, does every little thing you do irritate him? Like surely he accepted your personality from the beginning and loves you for the way you are.

Don't stay if you're just wasting your time.