How often do you shower

Set a routine that works for both of you.

Every night, we all go upstairs and take turns!

Every day. I don’t wash my hair everyday because that takes longer. If my husband isn’t home I put baby in a baby seat and tell my 5 and 2 year old I am in the shower and leave the bathroom door open so I can hear them. If he is working then he isn’t going to know if you showered or not unless you tell him. Just say I am going to take a shower. As a mom you need to be mindful to make yourself a priority too and if you want a shower then the kids can wait for 5 minutes.

He’s entitled to two showers cos he works and especially in this heat just as you’re entitled to one as well. Is there any chance you can get a shower once he’s back from work and he watches the baby? X

Yes I always showered regardless of daughter's age. At first I would put her in baby seat then later pack and play then when she was old enough I told her mommy is showering I will be back in ten minutes. Sometimes she wants to shower with me and I'm ok with that I still get a shower. Whatever works. As a single mom I always made sure I took care of my basic needs - shower, food, sleep. I can't take care of her if I'm deprived myself so I do what I need to do (making sure she is safe of course). Don't feel guilty for not giving attention to little one(s) for five minutes. Make sure they are safe and take the time you need to shower, make sure you are eating and sleeping enough too because hunger and exhaustion make everything harder. Find a schedule that works.

Sometimes when I'm alone with baby, I just go in the shower with her! She actually loves it and its getting use to the shower as well (not just baths). I put her bathtop inside of the shower and sit her there while I shampoo or rinse. And then I hold her with me under the shower to rinse her as well! Probably I can't take all the time or do all I would like to, but it works!

My husband showers before and after work. He works in a hospital so he needs the one after. When he's home he showers every time he goes to the washroom. It is very annoying as he is in there an hour at a time. On the days I'm feeling petty I will send our 2yo to knock on the door when he's reached the 45min mark.
I shower whenever I can. It's hard with a toddler and newborn.
Most days I would just shower at the gym, but I haven't been since I stopped teaching classes at 5 months pregnant.

I always shower once a day, i’m a single mum so when my daughter was a baby she was in the bouncer in the bathroom and i would just shower really quickly because she usually started crying.

When I need it. I when baby was smaller right in with me. As baby got bigger in the car seat watching me. Now at 1 she stands and watches me. Then its her turn.
Plan to do the same once #2 arrives in Oct

Depends on the weather/what I'm doing but normally a couple of times a week and then may get dragged into bath with son on top of that.

Pre-covid/child I was working out a lot more and having to commute into the office more so could easily shower a couple of times a day post-exercise.

Every day. My boyfriend and I shower together to spend time together and we talk about our days. Men have to be told everything unfortunately.

I’m confused as to why you went off on him about it. Why does he have to be home? Can you put your kids down for naps and shower? Or even take them into the shower with you and give them some toys? That’s what I do with mine. Gets them clean, gets me clean, they can play quietly with toys. If he’s working outside in this heat? Yeah I understand the two showers because that must be fucking brutal. And also? No one can read your mind. Thinking someone should read your mind about what you want and calling it “common sense” is wild. Common sense would be understanding that if you have a need, you talk about it so you can get your needs met. If you want a shower alone, hand him the children and take your shower. He’s their dad. He can take care of them for 30 minutes or so.

Set baby in safe place nearby and take your dang shower. You can find a way to do it with or without him being around. Is it ideal? No. You can take fast showers or slow showers if he’s around. A fast shower is better than no shower, it sounds like for you.

Or just actually communicate with him and tell him that it’s important to you and work out a schedule….do it at night, or morning, etc, whatever works best.

We know what it feels like to be a burned out parent with a baby at home. Whether it’s your first baby or you have toddlers running around too, you just gotta take care of yourself and find a way to do these things.

I shower 1-2 times per day. Some showers are longer than others but for me like a cup of coffee to others it’s a priority to have 1 everyday

Heh. Usually every 2 days, unless I’ve done something that I feel the need to shower after more so than the normal day.
Yes, I can shower if I really wanted to, let little man scream in his bassinet or crib, but he cant sit up by himself yet to play but can crawl his booty off the bed. Too much effort to bring the whole pack play into the bathroom lol I have a 7mnth old, I don’t feel comfortable leaving him completely alone for a long period of time. Even if I have the monitor

I told him I want it as 20-40minutes by myself NOT paying attention or thinking about the baby. So I “ask”. I tell him I’m showering when he gets home.

I shower twice a day usually when baby naps

How old is your baby? I don’t see how the baby would stop you
I usually just have my baby in the bathroom with me when she was younger, I put her in a bouncer or something
Now she walks so I just leave the door open

I remember times like this so don't worry! I felt I could never get round to having a shower because my baby would only sleep on me for naps at the start and got upset if left in the bouncer or anywhere that wasn't in my arms. So I get where you're coming from. Also, in the book 'cry when the baby cries' by Becky Barnicoat also makes a point in there about we shouldn't have to ask for permission to have a shower, but sometimes thats how it is. Just say to your partner when he comes home he has the baby whilst you shower

Why don’t you get to shower? Me and my husband both shower 2 times a day. Right after we wake up and then again before bed or after the gym.

I shower every day I put my baby down for first nap and I take the baby monitor in and I take my shower, get dressed when he wakes I feed him dress him and go to baby bounce at 10.30 3 days a week or meeting my bestie or another mum for play date. And other days I shower at night w hubby we still have showers together every week

Daily , I’ve balanced showering with baby nearby and I can see her. I typically make sure she’s fed and changed and comfy before I shower. She will either be awake or sleeping. I can see her through doorway or I’ll bring her in with door open. Also my husband will watch her if needed.