Thinking of leaving but I’m a stay at home mom.

I’m feeling the same way..don’t you have family near by or any people to help you?

I moved across the state and met my husband so I left everyone behind. My dad lives here but he just lost his wife so I don’t want to be an additional burden at the moment. So I’m pretty alone. I’m sorry you are feeling the same way I know it sucks.

Would you like to message me to vent things?

I’d try and get a remote job if possible. Or start working part time as a server, that’s the easiest way to squirrel away money.
Or if you really can’t work open a secret bank and savings and start pulling out cash or buying things then returning them for cash and put that in your secret account.
If you have family you can move in with, when you’re ready to go that’s great if not, keep saving till you can get you and your babies into an apartment/shelter and feed and take care of them for at least a month and a half. If you can make sure you have a full time job when you’re transitioning from his house to your new one.

It just depends on how secretive you wanna be. If he’s a good guy he’d want the mother of his children and his children to have a stable home and make sure they’re fed. When my parents divorced the courts made them get one apartment and every other week they’d transition from being at the house with us or their shared apartment.
That way the kids stayed home.

If you think you could have the conversation, “I want a divorce but I need time to get my life together” and he’s a good guy maybe yall can coexist till you get things in order. If not keep it a secret till you’re good to leave. Best of luck mama.

Yup I've been in the same situation. Negative, angry fiancé. Thank God I didn't have to go through legal stuff in order to leave. It's not an easy choice....but when you know what you deserve and you know you need to go and you know you're the only one holding the relationship together....you'll know and you'll leave. Or you'll forever be trapped.
Leaving my fiancé is still fresh and quite painful but I'm glad I did it. I couldn't put up with his negativity and immaturity anymore. Having my daughter and child on the way gave me the strength and reason to get up and go. I know he's a poor father figure as well. If I didn't leave for my own sake and all the heartache and verbal abuse he put me through, I could leave for their sake because I don't want them to grow up seeing a terrible example of a grown man.
Thank God I also have my parents to live with because if I didn't I think the loneliness and financial burden would be almost unbearable. I still mourn the relationship that I and my fiancé don't have,

but I recall all the things he said and did.....ive even written a lot of it down, and when I start missing him I reread what I wrote....and I remember just exactly was so bad about my day to day with him.

I’m honestly feeling this way. I’m a stay at home mom, I love my husband but for the last year things have been complicated and it seems to be getting more complicated. I’m not saying I’m a perfect wife but my husband has changed. We argue and fight, disagree on parenting styles, and ofc there is more to the story. I just dont know what to do anymore. I have to put my daughters in wellbeing first..

Omg I have been dealing with a similar relationship dynamic and im a stay at home mom