Is it ok to keep helping in the house?
So ever since i met my husband he has being very financially open with me, i noticed how he used to help his mom as well. Long story short we got married and thats where i got more involved in his finances, well he is a home owner so i moved with him;but then i found out how much money he gives her, im talking about rent, insurance, groceries, clothes and so on. So for a while i helped him but i donāt want to do it anymore because i feel like i help in the house and that money directly or indirectly it goes to his mom; what should i do?
I donāt feel like my husband challenges me, I can almost never have a stimulating conversation with him, we married young 10 years ago when we were both naive but deeply in love
I feel like since then Iāve grown so much and heās nearly stayed the same, so I guess Iām the problem since Iām the one who changed our dynamic but Ive slowly become more and more attracted to intelligence and my husband is kind and hard working but he is satisfied being mentally stagnant and itās making me freak out, there has to be more. With the state of our country and the world, I like discussing politics, ideologies, cultural and social norms and things like that. I genuinely love learning and being challenged. He likes playing video games. Heās also objectively attractive by beauty standards, muscular build, full head of hair and beard. I recognize heās attractive but I am not attracted to him anymore because I donāt find him interesting or smart. I know I sound like an extreme asshole but thatās the truth, is there any hope? Does anyone else feel similar?
Does this happen to all women?
I feel like I attract weirdos. Iām happily married. And every job Iāve worked at I have had horrible interactions with men. I worked at a gas station for a while and while I was there, I had a stalker, he literally had to be chased off by one of the other employees. And when I told my boss that a different man was asking questions about what vehicle I drove and waiting out in the parking lot for five hours to see when I would leave from my shift to follow me home, my boss( a man) told me to be meaner and did nothing.
when I was a CNA a guy grabbed my ass then same day I went to Walmart and as Iām in the dark parking lot two 6 foot four guys are at the back of their trunk asking me to come smell the perfumes they had.
Recently, my husband brought friends over and one of them hit on me in front of my husband, another one told his friend he wouldābang meā if he had a chance. (Both of these guys are no longer welcome in our house)
and this is literally not even the worst experiences Iāve had as a woman!
IM JUST SO DONE! Iāve developed being shy because I hate it. Does anyone else feel like this? Why canāt women just be human?