Difficult Birth Effecting Excitement For 1st Birthday

TW - Birth Trauma

As our children's first birthdays approach, is anyone who suffered a traumatic birth struggling more with going over what happened and almost fearing the days around or including their child's birthday?

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I had a traumatic birth and I'm still having physio as a result... but have been talking about it in therapy and to close people and it has helped.
I also did a birth reflection meeting with a midwife from the hospital where you go over your notes about what happened, and got a copy of my notes too, that helped. You contact your birthing hospital midwife team to arrange it.

Oh dear I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully therapy will be helpful but it can take time to find someone who you feel gets it.
Has your son already had his first birthday? How was it for you?

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