Feeling Used

I don’t know how to properly explain this but here it goes
I’m a new mum to a beautiful baby girl and it’s me, her, my partner and his dog
We’ve been together for a bit over a year now and personally I’m not happy in the relationship anymore.
Ever since I found out I was pregnant back in October 2024 things have changed between my partner and I, fighting 2-4 times a week, him on his phone 24/7 watching shows and no sexual contact at all nowadays I’m lucky to even get a kiss from him let alone anything else
There was a incident 2 months before giving birth to my little girl where I caught him messaging other girls in all of the wrong ways, complementing them sexually saying how hot they are and how he wish he had money to buy stuff off their OF, and when I confronted him about it first he lied straight to my face and said it wasn’t him someone else had his account but it was a freshly new account, only when I started packing my bags ready to go he said that he did do it but it wasn’t cheating it was a mistake, so I stayed because I don’t want my little girl to grow up having her parents separated like I did
But now almost 3 months postpartum I’ve asked him for hugs,kisses, sex and time spent with me but it’s excuse after excuse, I’m a young mum only 18 and I’m on a constant day in and out wake up at 6am get baby’s bottle ready make sure his work clothes are ready at 6:30am everyone is awake getting ready for the day and by 7am he’s out the door to work, then I put bubba girl for a nap take his dog toilet and clean the house from the night before the kitchen where I cooked down to his side of the bed with all the snack wrappers and I get told I don’t do anything,
I feel like I’m being used, I feel like he likes the idea of me but doesn’t love me, I right now have been diagnosed with postpartum depression, and he said it’s nothing and that I’ll be okay and I should just be like I was before

What should I do I’m urging for peoples opinions nice or not sugar coated or bang smack what you think I don’t think I have any options left

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Well, you said nice or not, was there really not red flags to begin with? Like you guys have been together for a little over a year and 90% of that time you would’ve been pregnant then. 😒
Please tell me this is an accident from safe sex, you’re too young for anything other than that.

I would work on finding a way to support yourself and your child. Because it sounds like he’s going to just keep you around to do everything, “use you” as you say. And I guess provide financially?
While most likely cheating on you still. And making you feel like crap

she wasn’t planned at all and me personally I’ve alway been against aborting a baby, but I’ve alway been scared to leave I don’t talk to any of my parents and all of my other family lives 5 hours away, and because of my age being 18 and his being 23 he’s threatened calling the police numerous amounts of times if I yell if I have a little mental breakdown from not doing so well to when I say I want to leave back to Sydney to my family he said he’ll report me kidnapping her, it’s just hard because I do love him don’t get me wrong but I know I can’t keep being in this relationship and only been showed 10% of love not even

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