How do you and your partner split the bills?

More specifically if you earn hundreds less than them

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Then you workout a percentage

For example 80\20
You can't do 50/50 if you don't earn the same

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My fiancé earns a lot more than I ever did so I only ever paid for food shops and he did the rest lol

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Like Leah says above, my partner and I figured out the ratio of our salaries and then we pay bills mortgage etc. proportionally. It works out that he pays about two thirds of stuff and I pay for a third.

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We keep the same amount of money for personal spending and then put the rest in a joint account for bills, joint spending etc,

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He pays for food shopping, wifi and puts £500 a month into our babies savings account.
I pay for everything else - electric, gas, water, mortgage, house insurance, etc.
car we split as both drive it. I pay for the second car as I’m the only driver of it.
I pay for most emergency/damages to house.
Our incomes are different though and I bring in a few hundred more.
I’ve no idea what that works out percentage wise.

But percentage make the most sense. if doing off percentage it should be percentage or income not automatically 50:50.
A £20,000 income vs £200,000 splitting 50:50 is in no way fair. Plus the life you’d choose on those salaries could vary a lot so not fair to make one person pay more if they wouldn’t have chosen that. Obs an extreme example x

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We split the bills 50/50 regardless of our incomes I thought that was normal but reading all these maybe not lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

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My partner pays for all bills. I am responsible for my own disposal income and the savings. Nearly all my income goes in our joint savings. He earns over twice as much as me.

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We did 50:50 when we were dating, but once we got serious we combined our income and all the bills just come out of that.

We both get the same 'fun money' sent to our personal accounts each month to spend or save as wish. I earn less because I work 4 days and he works 5 but that doesn't mean I should get less - it's family money!

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Generally, I pay 2/3rds and he pays 1/3rd, which is proportional to our income. But it's not an exact science as we flex between us if our outgoings have been larger/smaller than usual. We are cohabiting partners (not married). I've always thought proportional is much fairer when there is a significant disparity in income.

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Same as , we each have the same amount of “spending money” to do with as we please, the rest goes into the same pot and covers bills, expenses, holidays, fun, and savings (although savings are typically in one name or the other, but we both know what’s where and agree where big expenses will come from as and when that’s needed).

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If you earn less I don’t think you should be doing 50/50. If he insists on doing 50/50 then he needs to come down to your level.

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We've never worked out percentages or anything, generally whichever of us earns the most pays for the rent, then the other pays council tax, gas and electric.
At the minute I'm the only one who works as my husband is on limited capability to work due to a physical health condition. I pay for the rent, both our phones (just because they're in my name) and everything to do with the car because it's mine and I'm the only one who drives.
Out of universal credit which goes into my husband's bank, the gas/electric is paid, the internet, council tax and any subscriptions like Disney+.
Food shops are kind of shared between us, whoever has the most money left when we go for a food shop pays that week. We both know how much money we have coming in and how much goes out in bills, we then both just keep whatever money is left after bills in our separate accounts. Whatever isn't spent at the end of the month goes into savings

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We put our money into a joint account. Everything gets paid out there. Each of us gets the same amount (500-1000 GBP) paid out into their individual account for personal expenses, like for "luxury" items (clothes, cosmetics that's not basic hygiene, accessories, outings with friends, etc) or individual savings (we both had investments and saving funds before getting together) . however one wants to spend that money is up to them. The joint account covers every expense concerning us as a family.

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I don’t pay for anything, my partner pays for all bills and I do some admin for his business once a fortnight, manage the household which involves cooking some days, cleaning and being a Sahm once I give birth

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I earn a very good salary, but my partner still earns more. We split the rent in half, and I pay for all of the bills (council tax, energy, WiFi, etc) as I work well with consistent outgoings. He then handles the big money spends - so that could be holidays (the hotel/flights - I’ll still pay for stuff when we’re away), if we need any large household things like a new mattress, a TV, etc. We then generally split most food shops between us.. I’ll get one, he gets the next, and so on. Similar with date nights, he might get dinner and I’ll get the drinks at the next place. This personally works well for us and we don’t have any issues, but I think it’s all personal preference. I know that if my salary was any lower, this wouldn’t be possibly and we would have to re-assess x

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Everything in and out our joint account. We’re a team - no his or hers, just ours.

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We also do it on a ratio so my partner pays a percentage more because of how much more he earns

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We split all household bills (mortgage, bills, food shop, gym, car insurance). We have our own personal bills. He pays more into joint savings as he earns more, which gets used for anything else; holidays, days out, dinners etc. With MAT leave coming up, everything will be put into one account and figured out from there. With our joint savings to top up as and when x

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We split everything 50/50. I earn more than my husband (until his pay rise in February where it’ll be more equal), but I also do the vast majority of the housework as he works shifts so I’m home more. That being said, we’re in the process of buying a house and the deposit is entirely coming from my savings 🙈

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We have a joint account, it’s our money, we don’t split anything

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I earn more than my husband, but we put everything into one account and split all bills equally, and also split whatever we have left equally as well. But we mainly use any left over for our daughter, clothes or paying for day trips at the weekend

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