Disrespectful daughter

What she needs is a good old fashioned ass whooping. She needs to fear you. I grew up old school in a Mexican household and that shit doesn't fly. Whoop that ass, take all her shit away, make her do chores. She can talk back all she wants but disrespectful to her teacher and elders, sayy what?? Once you whoop her butt she won't think this is a joke anymore. You either step in now or deal with pregnancy/ rebellion/ and she can't hate you forever. Sorry, just speaking from personal experience. You got this Mama .💪💪💪

I dont have a daughter but I use to be just like yours. I really needed help when I was younger and my mom didn't even know. I mean, a lot of things happened to me that never should have happened and my mom would ask me if i was okay but we didnt know how to talk to each other, so we didn't. Maybe she needs therapy? I probably could have benefited from it when I was her age. BUT teenagers that act like that dont always end up being bad adults! Also, my mom and I would get in fist fights when I was a teenager, and when i became an adult our relationship was still a little rocky but and now we talk on the phone more than I talk to anyone else!

Minimise materialistic things. It teachs - importance of little is more. She may retaliate as teenagers do, their Brian's developing and hormones are changing so they usually respond to stress quickly, impulsively and emotionally. By removing non essentials they have space to sit with their feelings and thoughts leaving them to focus on clarifying the present moments. Speak, set boundaries, then allow her to talk. There may be other things causing this behaviour, possibly school, social media pressure, maybe it's related to the time she spends at her dad's and other influences she has in her life like friends. It could be too much freedom like you said ether way boundaries are important. Have a foundation, get someone she's close to speak to her. Ask family or her dad for opinions/advice too as they will know her personally. Do not be lenient. Correct negative behaviour. Consequences aren't a "punishment" They're to teach a lesson, improve self control by allow her to reflect on the impact of her choices🩷

Welcome to message me if you want to speak more! Always happy to try help, Share advice and experiences with you if you wanted. 🙃

I have similar issues w my daughter who is about the same age. But she acts 16(or thinks she's is) I swear. We are close tho. And I've been hella lenient as a parent and always considered her feelings and had lose boundaries 🤷‍♀️ just being honest. There's things I stand firm on but not many and I think she has used that to her advantage. Compared to the things other kids are allowed to do or get away w she has it made imo. She doesn't do terrible horrible shit so I let the small things slide over time not realizing I was letting her think im not in charge here...
It got to the point where I sought out professional help and I'm on a waitlist for evaluation and doctor visits to see if more is going on, plus she has a mentor coming now (to look up to hopefully), and therapy and in home therapy coming up in a few months as well. Pluss I have a parenting mentor working with me. It's been ALOT and it's just beginning.

The calm parenting podcast has a video about talking back and he says basically not to..

.. take it personally. It's natural and normal for them to not just blindly comply when we ask things of them when you think about it.
I can't for remember what he said to do in reaction to it tho. As far as discipline goes do you ever take internet time away or a device?
That's the only thing that motivates mine. She got pissed at first but now she kind of just knows that's what's up. Such as if she refuses to get out of bed on time she loses 30 mins of internet time for every 10 mins extra that it take me to get her moving. She told me to shut up the other day in the car and when we got home I said calmly oh hey internet is off for an hour so we might have to find something else to do. She got mad and asked why. I said because you said the s word to me and you know that wasn't ok. But even when she gets mad I have to stay super calm about it if I can and just guide her to do something else. That way it's not the end of the world but she might think twice next time also you know what I mean