Struggling

You are a good mom. The idea that your kids would be better without you is wrong. You are their everything. Even feeling detached is sometimes a normal part of parenting. the fact that you feel like a bad mom means you're a good one.

Getting out of the house is important. Going for a walk even would likely brighten your mood some even if just for a short time. If you have a stroller, put them in it and just walk.

I know that seems like then advice but that's what I do when I'm feeling really low

Make a doctor's appointment and speak with your doctor. Ppd is so common for mommies and there is help out there. Please dont be afraid to reach out for help

I’m so sorry you are going through this! I have been there and managed to survive and currently on meds and healings. I just want you to know you’re not alone in this. When a woman has a baby, absolutely everything changes including our bodies, our emotions, our daily lives, even how we see ourselves. It’s a huge shift, and on top of that, if you’re grieving, it makes the weight even heavier. Grief doesn’t pause just because we’re moms now, and motherhood doesn’t pause while we grieve either. It’s a lot to carry, and it’s okay to admit that. Please be gentle with yourself, and remember that you don’t have to rush through the pain or have it all figured out right now. One step, one breath, one day at a time is more than enough. 💜

Also I invite you to join my postpartum emotional support group for mothers who need daily reassurance that they are not alone, if you’re interested.

I’m going to make an assumption you aren’t on any medication. In which case, my advice would be to reach out to your GP and tell them you’re struggling, just like you shared with us.

My kids are 3.5 and 1.5 and Ive had periods where I don’t even recognise myself and no motivation to take care of myself. Taking antidepressants helped me to move forward and not feel the lows so low.

There will come a time where you feel good again, but you’ve got a lot going on right now and understandably you’re feeling a certain way. And I can tell you I love my kids but I don’t always love parenting. I’m glad I’ve gone back to work so I get a break! You’re a good mum pouring your all into your kids.

I’m guessing you aren’t eating great at the moment either, so get some multivitamins in you too and stay hydrated.

One step at a time!

I struggled with post partum hard with my son and felt the same way, but I’m telling you don’t give up. It’s okay to reach out for help I had to get medication before I felt better and once I started to help myself I found my strength to be who I needed to be. Don’t give up! Your not a bad mother your just hurting and that is okay.

My advice!
Talk with your doctor about what you’re feeling sometimes just being honest with them opens doors to real support.
Therapy or counseling can give you a safe space to release and heal.
Find someone who understands ex: another mom, a friend, or a group where you don’t have to explain yourself, just be.
Take care of your body the best you can. Eat when you’re able, drink water, and rest when possible.
Speak it out!!! Even journaling or voice notes can lighten what feels so heavy inside.
You don’t have to do it all at once. Even choosing one step is enough to start lifting some of the weight. And I promise, you deserve to feel supported in this. 🤍

I would make an appointment with the GP. In the meantime a lot of self care is needed. Definitely try and shower everyday, good food daily walks it all adds up. Sorry you're going through a bad time. Time is a great healer you will feel happy again