Working Mummas - Mum Guilt

It's hard! I have a 2.5 year old and a 1 year old and the guilt doesn't get any easier I'm afraid!

I think being there for your baby as much as you can afford to is the best thing x ❤️

Part time- but I'm financially stable but choose to work part time 18.5 hours, as I need to work as its just how I am (flexi time plus 1 day a week from home if wanted) If you need to work full time, make the most of the time you're not working such as weekends. Fill with fun memories and days out, weekends away, etc.

I honestly broke down going back to work!
I had originally planned to not return until mid August this year and go back at 3 days a week rather than 4/5 days
And i ended up having to go back in may and when I left the little one I broke down into tears in the car, for about a month every time I left him I’d just cry, literally had to set aside extra time in the morning to cry in my car before going into work.
Spoke with my manager and cut myself down to 2 days a week an it has been a bit better. I don’t cry anymore leaving him but I feel hella guilty every time, it feels wrong being away from them.
I feel it’s really hard for me as well in the sense that I leave my child to then go look after other people’s children (work in a private nursery) so I feel guilty that I’m having all my energy be taken up by other babies that by the time I get home at night I have no energy for him

It’s been hard. I wfm full time and it kills me not being with her 24/7 my husband is with her tho and I check on her every break and during my lunch. Today was really hard cause she cried when it was time for me to return to work. I only started work cause I have arthritis and it was getting so hard on me to watch her without any help so now I work Mon-fri and my husband works Friday nights to Monday morning. This schedule works way better for both of us since now my husband isn’t over worked but it was a hard transition. I only recently went back about 2 months ago

I went back full time with my first baby. This time round, I’m doing full time hours but condensed Mon-Thur with Fri off. She’s still in nursery on Fridays for a few weeks as I’m doing a 12 week trial of the condensed hours.
I feel sure I’ve done the right thing. I really need the stimulation and challenge of work and regular adult conversation that isn’t just baby talk. It takes a while to adjust as you definitely feel torn initially but once you get into a rhythm, it’s great!

Im back on phased return, but I work from home. In the day I schedule my calls as close together as possible then do the admin in the evening after kids are in bed, that way I can pick them up 1-2 or 3pm and still spend a little time with them before bed 6pm, otherwise i literally wouldnt see them.
If I didn’t have this job, I think I would return either part time or work opposite my husband so at least one of us is with the kids. They’re only this little for a few years, I’d rather live more modestly now and slowed as much time with them as I can afford to.

I went back fulltime when baby was 9 months. I got a new job so “phased return” wasnt an option and I just didnt want part time because I actually wanted to go back to work. Being at home made me crazy 🤣 Its been 4 months now and Im ready to do part time. Its too much. We don’t qualify for funded hours for nursery nor can we afford it. So right now we manage between us and our grandparents. Its a mission though. I get home 6.30pm after work and then because of rush hour traffic, a 20 min journey to pick up my daughter turns to 50 mins and then same on the way home. By the time I get home, its 9pm. Put her to bed, maybe have dinner. Then repeat the next day. Mon/Fri I wfh with her and its impossible to work at all. So we are considering getting a nanny for Mon/Fri