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Does anyone else have the worst thoughts about their baby?! 😩😩 I constantly picture me dropping him or fainting whilst holding him, falling down the stairs with him in my arms, something happening whilst we’re out in the car and I envision waking up to him not breathing. He sleeps well through the night but I’m up countless times to check he’s breathing! It’s so exhausting 😩 My mental health PP is otherwise completely fine except these thoughts. Is this a FTM thing??

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i have ocd and it has been a constant thing for me, was crippling in the beginning, although is more manageable now that i can intellectualize my child is fine and these are just scenarios

Hey, I’m a mom of 4 and a postpartum doula specializing in perinatal mood disorders. I just wanted to say it’s totally normal. Not just after my first baby, but after each of my babies I had those same thoughts. Your brain is on survival overdrive, staying on the lookout for danger. The drastic change in hormones postpartum can also serve to increase anxiety in a lot of moms. With my babies, I used to keep a compact mirror by the bed and when I got worried about their breathing I would put it up next to their face so it would fog up and I would know they were okay. Lol. My oldest is now 13 and when he’s over at a friends house I still sometimes call and ask if he’s okay or if he wants me to come get him early. It gets better and easier but it never goes away completely.

I have this too I wake up every couple of hours worried

I would discuss this with your doctor especially if it’s reached the point that is affecting your rest/sleep. While this happens to a lot of people I don’t think it should be normalised to the point that we should just get on with it!

I had this when my baby girl was still small. Always the what if this happened, what if that happened. Its very mild now and rare but I still get scared when she falls over while running.

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