Hiding from my kids

Take those 5 mins when you can! They are safe and happy, you are a good mum ☺️ we are all only human and all need a break at times. Sometimes I tell my son I’m going to poop (he insists on pooping in private so kindly gives us the same courtesy 😅) and I hide in the bathroom for 10 mins 😂

You've acknowledged your emotions and are taking much needed chill time to regulate yourself so you don't take things out on your kids - how does any of that mean you're a "terrible parent"? I'd say you're a great parent! Your needs are so important to. They don't just disappear when you become a parent. I know it's easier said than done but please never feel guilty for meeting your own needs! You sound like you're doing amazing in a difficult situation 💜

Like we have been told in an airplane, you need to put your oxygen mask on first to be able to do it for you children. Take the time you need to be rested and care for them, you are doing great, enjoy these 5min

Take those five minutes. Ten minutes if needed. I hide from my kids all of the time. I even hide from my husband lol

When this happens, I am transparent with my daughter. I tell her I'm overstimulated, which means my body is feeling and hearing too many things at once. I need space, and I go into my room. She normally screams and cries and waits by the door. I feel so guilty, but the guilt melts away when I later see her telling me "I need space". Because I model for her what to do when feeling overstimulated by explaining it to her and taking my time despite her protests, she's learning to do the same. It's a hard lesson for me to learn, but I think one of the absolute best things you can do is to let go of the guilt and just handle your overstimulation as a matter of fact. This will help your kids break the association between feeling guilt/shame for tending to their own needs. ❤️❤️

I feel terrible for hiding from them, but if I go to the same room with them then suddenly my youngest gets super clingy and wants constant attention, but alone she plays independently

Honestly all these comments just brought me to tears 😭 it’s been a rough week and I can’t wait for help on the weekend

I locked myself in the bedroom the other day both kids banging on the door. I just needed to lay down for 3 minutes or I was going to cry lol

Who on earth clicked terrible parent?!
I will 100% step away at least once or twice a day. Especially when my toddler is on one. I've sat on the bathroom floor and CRIED! Stepping away allows us to calm down, take deep breaths and take a step back. This does NOT mean anyone is a terrible parent. Just surviving doing whatever we need to do. I will not be judged for that 🤷‍♀️

Always keep a camera on them if you aren’t able to supervise. Accidents happen and you can be aware and available by having a motion camera.

Listen I've been there and I got to a point many years ago and I would bath them but they refused to sleep in bed so I would say be quiet and don't leave the room. I took the monitor and let them play until they fell asleep, then I would go in adjust them, turn off the light 🤷🏾‍♀️

I can’t believe people have actually selected the first answer, shame on you whoever you are, you clearly think you’re above everyone else. Many helpful comments though luckily, you’re a good mum and you need to look after yourself too to be able to look after your kids. Can’t pour from an empty cup, take 5 mins when you need to, hang in there, sending hugs 🤗

I cant believe someone put terrible parenting i have stepped away numerous occasions but always made sure my baby was ok and someone was watching him and just go collect myself and come back theres no harm in it. Its better to that then get to the point where ya yelling. U got this girl we all believe in u

I do this too. Leave them where I know they're safe (5 year old is free to roam but baby is in a gated safe area) and sit alone in my room. It's necessary sometimes. If the choices are take 5-10 minutes to relax or scream at them, the choice is clear. You're doing your best.

As long as they are safe you take that time mama. I need to remind myself to do the same. Being a mom is literally the hardest job in the world. Both my kids are sick so we are stuck at home all day and I’m going crazy. I’m tired to listening to Bluey today but I have no energy for anything else. I’m going crazy in this house.

I always look at it as we can’t be perfect every day! Nor should we have to be. We are so focussed on meeting their needs we neglect our own. We are also so busy doing so many thankless tasks we burn ourselves out. Theres an 80/20 rule that I like to apply to a lot of things in my life, especially motherhood. 80% of the time I think I’m pretty consistent and on the ball but theres 20% where everything goes to pot 😂 we’re human though and thats what being a human is. Social media is killing the idea that anyone makes mistakes. Everything looks so perfect but it’s not. I agree with modelling to our kids that we need our own space. It’s a vital skill to carve out your own time in a busy world. We need to be kind to ourselves and hide from our kids for 10 mins every now and again 😂

Honey those kids are fine!! Take a minute for yourself if you need as long as they're safe ❤️

I usually push thru until hubs gets home & then go sit w/ my chickens. My hubs bought me a pair of Sony xm noise canceling 🎧 for Christmas last year & omg they help me keep my sanity. I can set them to let a certain portion of voice thru & block out background noise, which is awesome bc I’m also hearing impaired. I am so addicted that I feel naked when they’re charging & I usually even fall asleep w/them on. I’m like straight from that misogynistic meme’s “bad woman” side, “old” woman wearing headphones & a hoodie, except I have children & would buy a pair for the gma still rearing kids & putting up w/ their awful husband. 😂