Right message wrong time? Opinions please

so I don’t believe in electronics before school.My child is five years old in kindergarten and I feel like if we have extra time in the mornings then he can read a book he can play with a toy, he can talk to me. I don’t believe in because we have extra time, sit on the game or Sit on the TV or sit on the tablet. So it’s a rule in my house no electronics before school.

so we go to the drop off line at school this morning and when we get to the line he’s like the fifth student, and all four students in front of him are on the phone playing Roblox together, and he said mommy I wanna play Roblox and I’m like hey you know we don’t play electronics before school. And he was like, but they’re doing it. As hard as it was I stood my ground with a no electronics before school, just off the strength of he justified him playing before school with “but they are doing it”

I felt like it was a very teachable moment to say just because you see other people doing it doesn’t mean you do it too.

I feel so sad but I wanted it to be a teachable moment for him and I feel like he got the message.

We were about 15 minutes early before the doors open and he stood there for about 15 minutes and we just talked or whatever but all his friends in front of him were playing Roblox and I keep seeing him look for the corner of his eye at their phones. And I feel a little bit sad now like did I make the right decision was there another time that I could’ve taught this lesson? Should I have just let him play with them?

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Your rules are your rules for a reason. I always tell my boys that different families have different rules and in our house this is our rule. I don't think any 5-year-old should be playing Roblox personally and even my 8-year-old doesn't play it but I completely agree with you that there's no reason kids should be playing on a phone before school. At my house if they have extra time I do let them sit down and watch PBS kids on the TV because it gives me a chance to get myself ready plus we have a dog so I can't have them making messes. They have to clean up the living room completely before we leave so the dog doesn't eat their toys and if they were getting more toys out it would make us late but other than that they don't get electronics at home before school either. Stand your ground and he will learn that in your house those are your rules.

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