Baby daddy issues

Is there anything that can be done about baby daddies while pregnant. I’m 25 weeks and my baby dad decided from the start he wanted nothing to do with me or baby and is still absolutely adamant he wants nothing to do with either of us but he’s turning into a bit of a stalker… he’s constantly talking about me and baby to other people saying he wants nothing to do with either of us and it’s his decision - he went on a night out yesterday and was messaging people voice notes saying things - I’m still in the same house I was in when I lived with him… is there anything I could do to try and move house ? I don’t want this to turn into a social services matter as I don’t think he would get to that point but I am starting to get worried for me and baby especially once here if I’m still living in the same house with the way his actions have started to be a bit weird also I just want to add we broke up officially in July and since then he’s already been in TWO relationships 😂

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You need to make sure you save every shred of evidence of his behavior especially the voice notes ! Make sure you go to court and file for full conservatorship over your child . Start looking for a new place to live and move during the day early morning (just in case you feel like he may be watching you) during this time I wouldn’t post anything on social media especially if he is not blocked because you never know who could be feeding him information . Once you get somewhere safe make sure he doesn’t have the capability to contact you. I hope it all works out for you please stay safe and if you have family reach out to them for help

Girl do what you gotta do for you and that baby! If it turns into social service matter or not. He’s choosing to have no part but doesn’t give him the right to have no responsibility for a child he helped to make. Make that man responsible and put your baby first. I know it’s hard, but I promise you, you will not regret it.

This is a very similar situation to mine however I’m 36 weeks, he has since harassed and stalked me, used the baby as a way to communicate with me stating he now wants contact and just overall has really made pregnancy hell. Document EVERYTHING and if it ever escalates, reach out!

I don’t understand the stalker part. Is he coming to your house? You can’t do anything about him talking about you to other people. I mean, yeah definitely move if that will make you feel better.

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