Does your partner ask you to change your looks often?

My husband has never asked this and what your husband has asked is definitely not normal. If my husband ever said that, I would tell him to get lost.

Oh he defo wants someone else. I’ve never heard of this at all from anyone I know and it’s defo not normal in the slightest. My partner has never asked or expected me to change anything about myself. Nor has a previous partner

My fiancé never asked me to change anything about my appearance, I think I’d be full of rage if he did tbh

My husband has never ever asked me to change my appearance. Honestly even poor relationships I’ve been in haven’t made this request, and I’m don’t do any of those things you mentioned already. I’m sorry he’s treating you this way, I’m sure you’re a lovely and beautiful woman just the way you are.

but is it wrong to ask your wife to switch it up sometimes? im really trying to see the positive in this i dont want to leave my husband we have 2 small kids and i still love him. i just hate the way it makes me feel.. it sure does feel like he wants someone else, we've been together 11 years btw

I’ve never heard of a man being like this. I mean, granted most women change their looks every couple of months anyway so maybe men are like this? But my man has never once asked me. I told him I was dying my hair red and he got super excited but it was never his suggestion.

Suggesting you try new things and branch out isn’t awful,

but if you’ve expressed that it doesn’t make you feel good & it doesn’t sound like support to just try new things for fun, he shouldn’t keep pushing it

^as said above, there is a difference between lightly suggesting you try new things (always leaving the choice to you), and insisting you do it for him. He's treating you like personal property and not a person with individual autonomy who is valued for who she is. The fact he thinks all men think like this is a giant red flag.

My husband and I have been together for 11 years and he has pretty much always said he likes me as I am and doesn’t even want me (see the need for) to wear make up. Men wanting variety is some weird type of BS.

In 10 years he has never once criticised my looks or told me to change. Ever.

No hes never asked me to change. If i ask his opinion he will answer honestly but he never makes requests besides an occasional lingere for sexy time. He does love going shopping with me though

Nah. Most men aren’t like that. Some are, and that’s fine but he’s wrong on that part.

Also this is a one time conversation. He asked, you said how it makes you feel, the conversation ends there. No means no, you don’t feel comfortable and you won’t be changing like a dress up doll. If he doesn’t accept that then something is wrong with him.

I get told to grow my hair and that he doesn’t like jumpsuits but that’s all, and I love jumpsuits and wear them anyway and have had short hair for 6 years 🤣

He's literally never asked me to do that

Nope. I thought that was the whole.. like… point? Like sure I change my hair, but he likes the “base version” of me? I’m not required to do anything. Sure, he compliments me when I do. But never have I been asked 👀 that’d be upsetting and you’re completely valid in your feelings/upset

My partner has NEVER asked me to change my look in 13 years. Most men aren't like that at all

Never ever. He sounds like he wants a girlier-girl as a wife when you’re not naturally like that. I’m that girl who loves dressing up loves wearing cluster lashes, blue eyeshadow to go w my blue dress, heels and hair down in a full blowout on weekends, without him asking. That’s me I love doing all that and I would do that regardless which man I’m with. My Hubbys besties’ wife is the total opposite of me and doesn’t do any of that and her partner married her KNOWING she doesn’t like doing any of that so he doesn’t ask her to. If you’re not the type of woman to wear lashes and nails who does it willingly and happily then I’m sorry but he’s trying to change you into someone you’re not.

I’ve looked the same since me and my man met and he’s never said I needed to get my nails done or change up my hair. He says he likes me how I am, but if I wanted to do those things, then I should.

Genuinely never heard of any man do this before the way you’re describing, every few months

you guys basically just confirmed what i thought; my husband doesnt really like the way i look. i guess now i have to think about what to do next cause im really hurt over this

Most men are NOT like this.

Have NEVER heard of a man requesting his partner to try fake lashes or wear different makeup. Most men don’t even have a clue about lashes/makeup! Has he been watching a certain type of porn? Does he like women who wear glam makeup a lot? Because his preference is coming from somewhere.

Have you gone through his phone? Has he been DMing other women? Downloaded any dating or other suspicious apps?

What were his ex’s like? The glam girly type?

Does your husband take care of himself too grooming wise?

What is your sex life like? Does he ask you to dress up/change your look for that too?

Sometimes I miss having nails etc & I always feel like I’m unkempt esp since I’m living in baggie “home clothes” bc son is ebf & I barely leave the house instead of my normal super cute clothes 😭 & bc I can’t wear makeup bc I get really bad psoriasis & ecsema around my eyes & my eyes & skin are ridiculously sensitive so I jsut do a lot of skincare & keep my hair past my butt - realistically I like a subtle look if I didn’t have health issues I’d do a lash tint & lift , wear some shimmery shadow sometimes & always have nails .. but that still a completely different look than massive shirts & hoodies plus 🧦 & braids … he says all the time he’s so glad I don’t wear makeup & I know hes much happier if I don’t have anything more than polish on my nails 💅 but he knows I love growing them out under a gel cover & encourages me to go to sister for gel x & randomly buys me stuff like builder & poly gel from the nail supply store 💕💕 he used to think I was way too skinny also …

But he never told me I had to gain weight & he’s supportive of me wanting to fit in my clothes again even tho he’s also vocal about being so happy about the 6kg i have been holding on to since I gave birth 😭

Mine has never asked, but I switch my hair up monthly and sometimes I’ll ask what I should get next and he has his favorite looks and will tell me. Same with clothes I can tell what his favorite eras are of mine and I be mindful to pull them out more often because if I like it and he loves it why not.

Absolutely not, he doesn’t comment on my appearance at all - unless it’s positively

My man likes me wearing lingerie but never asks me to change my looks.

My husband could care less

My partner alway hates when I get dressed up and wear makeup he like it when I wear baggy clothes and no makeup idk why

this is actually really odd tbf

My husband likes when I have different hair or fake nails but only when its my choice to go and do it. And I never wear makeup which he normally prefers. He hates makeup. So no most men dont ask their partners to change their looks. He should love you for you.