Young mom needing advice

You and your baby both deserve better; unwavering love and stability and respect. Cut your ties, Mama. You don't need someone's poor half ass effort when clearly they'd rather split that with someone else. Lying to you about not having time for appointments and not doing things to show you be wants to be there, he doesn't deserve to be declared as the father or be honored with the last name on the certificate. Perhaps it's time to think about what you want your future to look like for how daughter's sake.

Not judging at all whatsoever just saying- although it may have been hard to accept at the time you already knew he wasn’t doing right when he was dealing with the ex and when he didn’t have a car or his apartment. So that alone shows he’s lacked stability from the very beginning… Because his sh*t wasn’t together then I wouldn’t expect it to be together being as though he’s already lied about other stuff. And I’ve been there going thru the same… you’re not alone.
It’s your decision. I feel like having the last name is a huge honor- does he deserve that? Maybe not but up to you…
The least he could do is show up for his daughter’s birth, I personally wouldn’t say no to that. That experience isn’t only for you but for your baby girl.
And signing the certificate? Yes! Because if it came down to it (I pray it doesn’t) and you needed to file for child support, him signing the birth certificate supports you being able to receive financial
Assistance automatically (at least in most state)

So sorry you’re going through this. You can still get child support with making more money than him. Just think about how present you want him in the child’s life. You have a lot of say and power being the mom and not being married. Do not feel guilty doing opposite of what he wants if that’s what you truly want. Men are children these days and we don’t owe them anything unless they prove by their actions they’re worthy. Stay strong lady.