Never really cared to get flowers...

I feel this way too . I’ve never wanted flowers for holidays or our anniversary or even my bday but I’d be thrilled if it was just a random gift . Back when I was a teen I remember asking my father to stop at the store so I could get my grandmother flowers and he asked why ? I then responded bc she’d be very happy to get them and I’d rather get her flowers now than to get them for a grave down the road …. Ik it’s a little dark but 2 of my grandparents had already passed at that point and it astonished me how many ppl sent flowers to the funeral but I never saw them with flowers while living . Well he did stop and I got her flowers and when she asked why and I said bc I wanted too you should’ve seen how fast she lit up and she went on the hunt for a vase bc she hadn’t used one in so long bc her kids never bought her flowers .

Was it happy tears ? Im confused

At least he actually got them. Just to look at the bright side. He could have told her no, but still wanted to get them. I’m glad you have a very sweet and thoughtful daughter that thinks of you when you’re not with her. Hopefully this will be a hint to your husband.

In all honesty it would mean more to me from my daughter than my husband. Yours is only 5 and showed so much care and love. That’s something to be so proud of.

Im sorry, I understand. You have every right to feel disappointed and let down. You put your hopes up only to realize that someone had to remind your husband to do something nice. Also sad that a 5 year old is more thoughtful than a grown man. Idk its tough, I dont like weaponized incompetence or babying men but unfortunately with men you have to say what you want and be specific as most men are not thoughtful like women. Sure there are exceptions. And yeh telling a man what to do takes the romance out of it and is not as nice. But idk what other solution there is other than to start dating women lmao. I've had to tell my husband what I expect and he started doing it. I wish I didn't have to say, but I was tired of being disappointed if I didn't get what I wanted but didn't communicate